Deep breath.. mini vent! With Easter yesterday, I had the chance to be around FI family and we had a great day celebrating Easter and catching up. FI has a second cousin, who is closer to age to him that his 1st cousins, that has been DRIVING ME NUTS. She got engaged about a month before we did, she's 18 and marrying someone she's barely known a year and their family has not met. Her life, her choices. But, she cannot handle the fact that someone else is getting married and since we are 10 years older, we are financially able to do things she is not. List of annoyances
1. She called my engagement ring "gaudy" in front of everyone (a half carrot is gaudy I guess) at the first family event I had it and said she would never want something like mine (her's is very tiny diamond chip with yellow gold and she always jokes that she can cut people with her huge rock) and started the comments as soon as my FI aunt pulled at my hand and started congratulating my FI and I on our engagement. I handled this and said that her ring was pretty and gave her some attention, which seemed to defuse the situation. I don't really care what she thinks of my ring or what her ring is like, but its was just annoying.
2. Initially, the wedding was scheduled on Christmas Eve and she gave me a to-do list, including making the cake and decorating the hall, without asking what if I was willing to help. I let her know that we had family obligations for my side of the family on that day and while I was willing to drop off a baked good (not an entire cake), I woudln't be able to do what she asked of me. She ignored me after that and her FI ended up changing the date again. She has bad mouthed me to my FMIL, who has put her in her place, but it's not seeming to make a difference.
3. Family members ask me something about the wedding? She butts in and shares why what they are planning is SO much better. When her wedding has been rescheduled 3 times and now is tentatively planned on a destination wedding without any family and she openly told FI and I that we aren't invited.
Now, she had the balls to say to me in front of all the 2nd cousins yesterday at Easter (FI has a big famliy and we aren't able to invite 2nd cousins, just first) , "I'm getting an invite, right?" Luckily, the Easter egg hunt provided distraction, but later on she approached me again and demanded to know if she was getting an invitation. My FMIL stepped in and backed me up when I said that we weren't able to include 2nd cousins due to the venue and budget constraints. She threw an absolute fit and started yelling at me for keeping her cousin away from her and that my FI could do so much better than me. I calmly told her that she needed to back off and mind her own business before I got back to helping the kids with their Easter egg hung.
I stood my ground, but this B is crazy!!!! And, FI used to be closer to her, and tried to tell me that she's not normally like this, the wedding has not been good for her mental state. End vent. Biatches be crazy...