Expensive registry items?

facedailey · July 2010

What are your thoughts on registering for very expensive items? I want to add a few big ticket items because we'll get a discount after the fact if no one buys them -- in fact, I assume the items won't be purchased. But, some people may want to go in on a group gift. My fiance thinks it's rude to list flat screen TVs and the like on the registry.

lauralaur · July 2010

You're just going to have to use the "we're sorry we couldn't invite everyone we wanted to due to budget and space constraints and we've known jimmy and susie for ten years so we invited them" line.

I'm sorry you're dealing with such awkwardness.

Meagan78 · July 2010

We added a few high ticket items mainly because our registry location allows us to come in after the wedding and get 20% off all remaining items.

KentuckyKate · July 2010

Wow, I didn't know posts were still teleporting...

Anyway. People register for big ticket items all the time, especially if your circle is likely to go in on a group gift. Though many people who just want the completion discount just add the big ticket items a few days before the wedding.

scurtis07 · July 2010

Eh, flatscreen may be pushing it, but other big ticket items like, expensive bedding, or artwork are fine. Unless you still get a ridiculous discount, in which case, if any rude guest says something like "who were you kidding with the flat screen?!" you can shove that discount in their face

mags0607 · July 2010

I think as long as you balance out the more expensive items with enough low price choices to give people options, then no one will think twice about it. People might also buy you gift cards when they see big ticket items to help you be able to get them.

I'm not a big fan of tv's on registries, but I really wouldn't think twice about it if I saw one on a registry.

riverjib · July 2010

I agree with Mags. You can register for any big-ticket items you want, as long as your registry is balanced. Wedding gifts aren't "need-based." If you already have that KitchenAid mixer and a good set of knives, it doesn't mean you're obligated to register only for china as your expensive gift choices.

When I buy gifts, I don't pass judgement on the bride & groom for their registry choices. Many of my friends and family got married after they already had bought and furnished their homes. A few asked that any gifts go to their favorite charities, but most asked for things they wanted rather than needed. I actually chipped in on a flatscreen TV and thought nothing of it. To me, the only thing that's tacky is specifically asking for cash only. If someone has a limited registry, I get the hint and don't mind...but asking for it directly rubs me the wrong way.

jakstr0808 · July 2010

I would say definitely register for big ticket items. I was having the same issue, when it came to picking our pots and pans. I really wanted this fancy set that cost ~$700. I was like, no one is going to buy this for us, I don't want to look greedy when sure I could get some pots and pans for $100. But the registry guy helping us convinced me to go for it, saying that we'll be surprised what people will buy us and if not we can always get it for a discount after the wedding. It was the FIRST thing bought off the registry (not even for anything wedding related - house warming gift in March) and I was SO excited. I think he was right, you'll be surprised what people will buy you and groups of friends will definitely go in on gifts.

Just definitely make sure you have a balanced registry so people who don't have a group and don't have a ton of money have options of things to buy you too. Actually we just recently had another big ticket item that again I thought no one would probably buy get bought off the registry along with all of it's accessories. So I say add it now....and then yeah, if no one gets it for you, you can always get it for a discount at the end.

jmkes · July 2010

I read from multiple sources that couples should register for a wide range of gifts, so we did. I don't expect to get a leaf blower or a Garmin, but hey - you never know! I did register for mainly lower priced and middle of the road items.

Galaxy8227 · July 2010

If FI doesn't like the idea of registering for a TV due to appearances, but you want to use the discount, just add it a few days before the wedding. By that point most people won't be looking at the registry anymore anyway so you won't have to worry about what they are thinking.

We registered for a few ticket items for this reason (GPS, new tools, B-ray player).

ThePinkSuperhero · July 2010

We added a few expensive things to our registry- a knife block, pots & pans, a Wii, a Kitchen-Aid mixer. We got the Wii and the knife block, go figure.

arbolita · July 2010

We registered for two big things - KA Mixer and a vacuum. We got the mixer from my parents. I think as long as you have plenty affordable items on your list, there's no harm in adding a small number of big ticket items.

Knittibell · July 2010

Go for it. As others said, as long as you have a good mix you're all set. If you get a discount on items not purchased, it's even better. I hadn't thought of a tv, but actually I can TOTALLY see a bunch of my fi's buddies going in on that- it's their sort of thing. And really, you'll probably use a TV more than anything else you might register for, apart from bedding.

bellaxanthe · July 2010

I think it should be VERY limited. I am totally put off by registries that are full of $200-$1000 gifts. I can see a putting in a couple, thinking that maybe the parents would go for that, but I think it seems really greedy and presumptious otherwise. I think if that I was only putting them on for the discount I would do it a day or 2 before so that not many would be aware of it. I rarely would even consider pooling money with friends for a wedding gift and never have. Maybe for a shower but never a wedding.

its2late05 · July 2010

Girl add what you want! I added some big ticket items (not a tv but they didn't have any where we registered) this is the ONE time you can ask for expensive items, so do it! I REALLY want my animal dyson though, not going to lie. Really hope someone does get it, but I will buy it if they don't

good luck!

mandysmear · July 2010

I hate when I see expensive items. I judge people.

Where we registered we were allowed to add items up to a year afterwards. Like if we wanted that tv after our wedding, we go into the store, have the registry department add it, buy it for the discount. Done. They do it for baby registries too.

polichik · July 2010

As long as they have items in a variety of prices, I don't care what people register for. It's a wish list, not a list of demands. If everything on your registry was over $200, I would be slightly annoyed by just get you a gift card.

Our most expensive items were a set of Calphalon cookware, KA mixer, beautiful quilt, and C&B couch. FMIL bought the cookware for my shower a few weeks ago, and I know my mom's planning on buying us the quilt. People who want to give big-ticket items will give them, and people who are on tighter budgets will choose something else. I don't see what the big deal is.

wadingmoose · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bumbling-guest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0a01870a-3c28-41ea-96b0-2ee133f96877Post:43b65a43-7bf1-43d1-ac7d-de3de135be9a">Expensive registry items?</a>:
[QUOTE]What are your thoughts on registering for very expensive items? I want to add a few big ticket items because we'll get a discount after the fact if no one buys them -- in fact, I assume the items won't be purchased. But, some people may want to go in on a group gift. My fiance thinks it's rude to list flat screen TVs and the like on the registry.
Posted by facedailey[/QUOTE]

It isn't rude. LIke you said, people do group gifts, AND most people are aware of registry discounts. Do it.

So long as you have enough reasonably priced items, of course.

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