Little Best Man

Re: Little Best Man

• meg65 member

  

  May 2012

  Maybe write some vows for him specifically? About mothering and whatnot?

  

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• RWS2011 member

  

  May 2012

  If you think your fiance's son would not feel put on the spot by including him in the ceremony, there are a variety of traditions you could incorporate that would include him.  You need to know him, his temperament, his comfort with the marriage, and how he might respond when being the center of attention with lots of eyes on him.

  
  

  If done right, it can be a truly beautiful, bonding moment for your new family.  Just make sure you are considering his needs and wants when deciding on the best way to include him.  I have listed some ideas below with links.  I hope this helps.

  
  

  Sand Ceremony: You each have a container with a different color of sand and pour some into a single container, symbolizing the unity of your family.

  
  

  Depending on your personal style/interests you could modify this to be pouring different herbs in to make a special "family seasoning,"  or different fragrant herbs (think sage, rosemary, lavender or rosebuds) to make a homemade potpourri in a decorative satchel, and so on.  You could get really creative with it!

  
  

  Family medallion ceremony: The non-biological parent presents a medallion to the child and delivers an abbreviated vow to protect and care for the child as their own.

  
  

  Given his age, I am not sure if you wanted to consider a modified Unity Candle idea.  Instead of two candles, three separate candles would be lit at the beginning of your ceremony.  Then you, your husband, and the child would each take a lit candle and ignite the central unlit candle, symbolizing the joining of your household, usually after the exchange of vows.  Alternately, you could stick with two candles to start and the child could "assist" his dad with his candle... if that makes sense.  

  
  

  Here is a website with other good suggestions.

  
  

  Whatever you do, do not expect the child to make any vows!  Good luck!

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Gails1962

  

  June 2012

  My grandson feels he is my fiance's buddy, since that is what my fiance calls him.  So he felt he should be the best man when we announced our engagement.  Of course he is not old enough, so we are making him our second best man and he will hand my fiance my ring and the best man will hold his.

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