emailed RSVPs?

Darciella · August 2010

I need some opinions here...

Is it completely tacky to have an email address for people to RSVP to? I only suggest this to save the cost of stamps on the RSVP cards. Or is sending them with no stamp completely wrong, too?

Thanks for your opinions, and I will not be offended by any negative responses to this. I ask because I am not sure

twilight.rose · August 2010

It's becoming more and more common to have email or online RSVPs.

Personally, I'm not a big fan, but it's an issue that's based more on personal preference than actual etiquette. If you do go the email route, you might also want to provide a phone number or physical address that responses can be sent to for those who might not use email/have a computer (usually older people on your guest list.)

quotequeen · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_emailed-rsvps-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2033e86d-6ba4-434e-b698-4b1186009b63Post:b6b4c373-9feb-48fd-8167-7773b5c3386c">emailed RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]I need some opinions here... Is it completely tacky to have an email address for people to RSVP to? I only suggest this to save the cost of stamps on the RSVP cards. Or is sending them with no stamp completely wrong, too? Thanks for your opinions, and I will not be offended by any negative responses to this. I ask because I am not sure :)
Posted by Darciella[/QUOTE]

If you are sending paper rsvp cards, you need to send them with stamps, regardless of whether you also offer an email option. Just doing an email RSVP is ok, but it makes your wedding seem less formal, and if you have non-tech savvy guests, it could be a problem. If you want to save money on postage, do postcard RSVPs instead of envelopes.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_emailed-rsvps-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2033e86d-6ba4-434e-b698-4b1186009b63Post:b1415c7b-2cf2-43f1-ba1e-8caeb59be040">Re: emailed RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to emailed RSVPs? : If you are sending paper rsvp cards, you need to send them with stamps, regardless of whether you also offer an email option. Just doing an email RSVP is ok, but it makes your wedding seem less formal, and if you have non-tech savvy guests, it could be a problem. If you want to save money on postage, do postcard RSVPs instead of envelopes.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

This. However, I think it's fine to NOT include the card and to simply include a card that says to RSVP either by email or by phone. Just give someone a choice other than email for those who don't use it.

Lenore2010 · August 2010

I see no problem at all with it. In fact, I actually kind of wish that as pretty as they are and as much as I personally enjoy them etiquette could move a little with the times and make e-cards and invites of all kinds acceptable for even formal occasions. They are very environmentally friendly, low to no cost, and made personal by the words you use in them-just like paper cards.

I used paper invites and RSVP's, and I just loved how they looked but from a common sense point of view, e-mail would have worked better. I did not do it because I think that at least for now, the Etiquette Gods will strike you dead or something.

TNMurray · August 2010

I've never heard of email rsvps but I have heard of online RSVPs and that is what I am doing. I dont think it will change the formality.

LuluP82 · August 2010

technically, if you're following strict traditions and etiquette, RSVP cards are incorrect etiquette, if you're being super traditional. People should just "know better" and respond in a handwritten note on their own personal stationery.

But RSVP cards got to be common at some point. Since they're evolved etiquette, I personally don't see an issue with online/email RSVPs. You can always send a postcard to non-tech savvy people. Include a stamp on those.

kathrynhabibti · August 2010

I did put my email address but wanted to keep some element of tradition and so also included my parents' home address for the US invites, and FILs' home address for UK/Dubai invites. I chose not to include reply cards.

2dBride · August 2010

We used online-only RSVPs. Only one of the 100 guests we invited had difficulties mastering the RSVP page. If you've also got telephone RSVPs, you should be fine.

And I agree with AroundTheBlock. The old rule was that you should not include RSVP cards, because this would insult your guests by suggesting that they wouldn't know how to send a proper response in blue or black ink on their own informals. This rule has been less observed in recent years, as it has become painfully obvious that most guests don't know how to send a response in blue or black ink on their own informals. But there are no etiquette rules relating to RSVP cards, because under traditional rules of etiquette, they don't exist.

jenellsrevenge · August 2010

We are doing post cards, but they can also RSVP to our website. There is also extra info on the website about the wedding theme and venue.

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