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Mother & Daughter as bridemaids...

summer&jrsummer&jr
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My best friend and her mom is very close to me, they've been my best friends for years. Would it be a little wierd to both have them in my wedding party? I don't think my best friend would have a problem with her mom being part of my wedding party but I found out she is pregnant, but will have her child long before my wedding will be. I think her father could watch the child for the wedding part but I'm kinda afraid that she'll want to invite her boyfriend. Quite frankly, he scares me. We never gotten along (I question his priorities and how he treats my best friend), and I really don't want him to come along and start talking about shooting people and how he has a load of guns (he was in the military and I think it screwed him up some). I don't want to step on uneven grounds and p!$$ off my best friend but he's unpredictable and I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place on this one...


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Re: Mother & Daughter as bridemaids...

  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    If you don't want to invite your best friend's boyfriend, about the only polite way to make that happen is not to invite your best friend.
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    Jen is 100% right. Whether she is a bridesmaid or guest, her significant other must be invited with her.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_mother-daughter-as-bridemaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:121824af-a2f8-4f73-b3cf-78de6571ad53Post:15a1c343-dddc-44f8-8e90-ca9a88c88108">Re: Mother & Daughter as bridemaids...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Jen is 100% right. Whether she is a bridesmaid or guest, her significant other must be invited with her.
    Posted by artbyallie[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto. </div>
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    1. You can ask anyone you want to be in your wedding party, including the mother and daughter.

    2. Has your friend's boyfriend actually threatened you or your guests?
                       
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  • MrsGandthebeagMrsGandthebeag member
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    1. Ask whoever you want to be in your wedding
    2. I'm not clear when you say that the father can watch the baby if you mean your friend's father or the baby's father.  Either way they both need to be invited if you have your friend and her mom in your wedding.  
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  • summer&jrsummer&jr
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    Even if I wanted it to be family and close friends only? What if he wants to invite his side of the family? I'm wanting to do a cook out after and honestly, I don't have the money to actually feed more people then I need to. I don't know his side and just because my best friend is my MOH, I don't think it gives them right to come. What should I do then? I wouldnt have a problem for him coming, its just I dont want to make myself and my FI or my family feel threatened or having one of his "i can kill everyone of you right now if i had my gun" moments if he gets mad. Maybe i should just talk to her about it.
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    You don't have to invite any more of his family. Just him. Because he's part of a social unit with her. They get invited together or not at all.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited January 2013
    Have someone on hand to escort him out or even call the police, if necessary, if he starts running his mouth about guns and killing people.  And give them a heads-up that inappropriate behavior on his part will result in that happening.  You unfortunately can't make her break up with him or leave him out if you invite her, but you can set boundaries as to what behavior is and isn't acceptable.
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