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Kinda Jacked

Soooooo yesterday, against my will or want, we went dress shopping. My mother along with you ladies encouraged me that if I found something to go with it. As luck would have it - I found something LOL. Now, I am being rediculous, I am aware of this. But I'm a bit ticked - not in a mad way just in a shake my head cause my family is crazy way. 

Sooooo we try on these dresses, my mother is tearing up blah blah blah, she's all about buying it and when the girl asks if this is it, I say yes, she writes it up and goes to hand me the cost of the dress and the veil. My mother instructs the girl that she'll be handeling the purchase, takes it and smiles. Now, the key is they're having their annual sale soooo this dress is like 600bucks cheaper than the rack price right. My mother makes a follow-up appt for us to bring my gram saturday (gram thinks shes going to die before the big day or something - she's so dramatic). 

Sooooo I get a call on the way home that my mom loves the dress blah blah blah and that she doesn't have the money now to purchase the dress. I tell her NO BIGGIE, I totally totally understand and we can stil go Sat and show gram and I'll put the money down. She tells me NO! I say why she says she'll be embaressed. I tell her I'll give her cash before hand and she says I'm being silly about it....

Now, what the heck am I supposed to do? 

Thanks for letting me vent. Ha! I know it's not that serious but it just irked my last never after telling me to pick what I wanted ( I was super conservative in the price area, I mean, it was like way less then she even thought), she kept saying if we find something we're buying it, this is the dress and then this. 

I would have been just as happy not going LOL, as I was going yesterday. 
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    Just put the deposit down yourself when you go on Saturday. It's your dress. 

    My mom is paying for my dress (she has demanded that she pay for my dress) but doesn't have the money right.this.second. When I bought my dress, I put the deposit down myself & at some point in the future, she'll give me the money for it. Just make sure you can afford to pay for the dress fully by yourself in case she ends up not being able to give you the money. 



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    Nobody has to know that you put down the deposit, I'd just do it if you love the dress :-)
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    Keep your head up, It has happened to me too, but with the limo. I parents keep telling me not to worry about this and that then when I say about a limo they go well we can't do it now which is fine, but don't tell me you are gonna cover then do it. FI mom felt bad and knows we are in the process of buying a house and what not, so she gives me the deposit as a gift. She is already paying for other things but she wanted too. I felt bad and i offered to repay but she said no it is a gift! I think some people try to live there weddings through their childrens.. aka my mom. Her and my dads was a small ceremony, so she thinks everything she wanted I should have or do. Then she says we have it covered and really they don't. I would rather know what I need to pay for up front then waiting!.. Ughhh parents some times. I would just have the money in case. Congrats on the check! Pics of the dress????
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    I get it!!! When we went shopping the plan was under a certain amount but my birth mother says oh I'll pay the difference fine but the whole point me saying that number was because with the discount it would be less going her way I went over budget she did pay the difference of cost but now I'm still over budget.
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    Just try and sit your mom down and explain that this is the dress you want and you don't want to miss out on the great sale. Let her know it will be just between the two of you and she can pay you back of give that money to some other part of your wedding.
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    I agree with PP if you love it go ahead and put the deposit down no one has to know that you put it down.
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    You should put the deposit down if you love the dress.  But, I would expect to pay for the dress myself.  Never expect money from people until you actually see the money.  Don't pay for the dress if you can't afford it on your own.

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    I agree with PP's... i would put the deposit down myself. I had a similar situation, but the place I bought my dress from made you pay in full up front (it sucked!) and we didn't know this til i was already in love with my dress. my mom and FMIL were with me, and we all just had to split it up to pay for it. My mom didn't want to, but we were also getting a deal on the dress if we bought it that weekend only, so she got over it and just paid my FMIL back as soon as she could. She wants to pay me back but I keep telling her not to worry about it.
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