Ok here is my issue. My fiance has three sisters, ages 26, 23, and 13. The oldest is his full sister, the two others are half sisters. I see two of them every few months or so when we travel to see his family. I feel that if I ask one of them to be a bridesmaids I need to ask all three, or at least the two older ones. He is planning on asking my brother (my only brother), who he sees much more often because we live near my family.
But, my fiance doesn't want a big bridal party nor do I. If I ask his sisters, plus my two cousins (whom I'm close with), my sister-in-law and my MOH, that would be 6 or 7 depending on the youngest sister. I ran everything by him, and he said he was ok with not having his sisters in the bridal party. I thought I would incorporate them in the ceremony though for sure.
Well yesterday he gets a call from his mom to let him know his oldest sister is really hurt that she wasn't in the wedding. So now I'm dealing with an upset sister and his mother. I understand their frustration, but I don't know what to do! I've repeatedly told my fiance we can make the party bigger if he wants. But he said he doesn't want to, and to just not worry about it. But how do you go into this knowing you've already alienated and hurt at least two people that are really important!!!! I want everyone to be happy, and enjoy the day!