Your were probably not invited because the MOG does not want you there. That's too bad that she couldn't rise above her pettiness to include you. Don't hold it against the son and his fi or your partner's family members.
You should let the relatives know that you weren't invited to the shower, but they are welcome to stay with you-that is if you usually host them. I don't think they will view you as a doormat. If anything, they will think the ex is being vindictive.
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You should let the relatives know that you weren't invited to the shower, but they are welcome to stay with you-that is if you usually host them. I don't think they will view you as a doormat. If anything, they will think the ex is being vindictive.