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Long Engagement & Engagement Party.

Britt1893Britt1893
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My fiance' and I don't planned to be married for roughly 3 to 4 years. I knew this as I accepted the ring because school is important to the both of us. My parents are divorced and his are still married. My mother has brought up an engagement party but never actually offered. I want an engagement party very badly! I also know its bad etiquitte to ask. So how do I go about this whole thing?

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  • CassieeKCassieeK
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    edited December 2011
    Wait for someone to offer to throw you one.
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  • Allycat11Allycat11
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_long-engagement-engagement-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:c10a049e-4b7c-4c99-8078-76406d180b6cPost:5330250f-c118-418c-968c-02c2dd5863e7">Re: Long Engagement & Engagement Party.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wait for someone to offer to throw you one.
    Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]

    Ditto.  I would have loved an engagement party, but no one offered one, so we did not have one.
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  • MAMA41206MAMA41206 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think if you have your engagement party now, then don't get married for 3 or 4 years it would be kind of strange.

    Maybe have the engagement party like 9 to 12 months before the wedding.  People will probably forget you are engaged by that point so you can remind everyone. 

    I'm sure if you mention it to you parents they will throw one for you.
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
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    edited December 2011
    Move to new zealand where it is ok to throw your own? JK
    We are having ours 7 months after our engagement, but around 2 years before the wedding. As long as it is closer to your engagement than your wedding, you can have it when ever, it doesn't matter too much about how long you will be engaged for.
    Just wait for your mum to bring it up again, if you are both really close, I see no harm in gently reminding her that you (and FI) can't throw your own, and hopefully she will offer.

    If not, and you really want a party, just throw one, not wedding related, maybe a Christmas party or new years, you can still show off your ring if people ask to see it, and have a great time with your friends and family.
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  • annah13annah13 member
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    edited December 2011
    My fiance and I recently threw a mad hatter themed engagement party for ourselves. We had everyone wear a super creative hat, most of which were homemade and we even had a ball pit for people to take pictures in as a play of the rabbit hole in Alice in Wonderland. Check out the pictures below.


    The only rule of engagement parties is that it should be closer to the date of your engagement than the date of your wedding. Once you're engaged you can have a party. Now a days more people are throwing themselves engagement parties! Maybe you should think about doing it yourself. Hope this helps. xoxo
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  • svangorkomsvangorkom
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    edited December 2011

    My fiancee and I have a 1.5 year engagement.  My family is very small, and his is all over the country, so we are not having the traditional "family meets family" party thrown by parents etc.  (I would also feel uncomfortable asking to have one thrown, even thoguh I would like to have one.  If soemone offered I'd definitely take them up on it though!)

    Instead, we are throwing ourselves a backyard bar-b-que and are inviting our attendants and very close friends.  This is our way of celebrating our engagement without a large expense, and as a way to thank our attendants who we've asked to be in the wedding.  This party will be about two months after we got engaged. 

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