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Dollar Dance

DaniC26DaniC26
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Vent time.

Ok, I'm sorry for this as I know lots of people say it's a custom in their family or such, but WTF is up with having a Dollar Dance?

I didn't know exactly what it was until I was scrolling through The Knot app and someone explained it.

Seriously, why don't you just charge money at the door? Tons of people on the app are doing it and excited about the amount of money they are going to get.

I think it's tacky and ridiculous.

But then again, I think 90% of the advice given on the app is wrong and weird, so I guess I'm in the minority. (YAY for Dollar Dances! It's MY day I can do whatever I want! Control your bridemaids hair/makeup/weight/tattoos! )
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  • abbycobb812abbycobb812
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    Wow, this must be regional or something - I can't believe everyone's so worked up over a dollar dance. They're pretty common at weddings I've been to! I certainly understand how the concept sounds a little trashy, but in reality it's just for fun. It's only a dollar, and obviously people only do it if they want to. It gives Uncle Bob an excuse to get out on the dance floor.

    Like many, many other topics on the board, I think it depends on what you prefer and what your guests are used to. Charging money for a dance would certainly sound tacky to someone who wasn't used to it.

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  • Melissa528Melissa528 member
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    Maybe it is more of a Regional thing.  Every single wedding I have been to has had a dollar dance.  I am from Pennsylvania as well.  They are not required by what is the point in bashing someone else's fun. If it is something that the Bride and Groom grew up enjoying let them enjoy their trads.  Just because it is one persons does not make it everyones.
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  • Amy_JustinAmy_Justin
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    Asking guests for money is tacky no matter where you live.
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  • libbylolibbylo
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    I've seen different versions.  The first was at a Greek wedding.  The couple (with the bridal party) danced in a large circle and people  threw money at them.  The money was given to the band.  The second was much like others have described.  People lined up and apid $ to dance with the bride/groom.  It's not for me. 
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  • PiruPiru member
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    I don't think I do it. I guess I'll go for it if people get rowdy about it but I'm not planning on it.

    My sister's is one of the only wedding I've attended and she did it, but I suppose that makes sense if it really is a Filipino tradition since her husband is Filipino.

    Meh. I could go dance at the titty bar just as easily...
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  • PiruPiru member
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    I thought about it and I think it would be far tackier in an expensive wedding paid for by someone else in which all sorts of gifts were registered for and they couple also received stuff from engagement party and bridal shower gifts. Not so much in a wedding where the couple is obviously on a budget and there wasn't a lot of gifts given.

    As usual though, different strokes and all that.
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  • portia.youngportia.young
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    You can donate the Dollars to charity. 
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  • trinalotrinalo member
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    edited April 2010
    I've only been to one wedding that didn't have the dollar dance. I'm personally indifferent to them- I've participated happily and had a good time, but I also think it's very random and bizarre.

    I also don't care if we have one or not. A few of my friend have asked things ike "what kind of music are you using for your dollar dance?" and I just kind of mutter about how I'm not sure. Pretty sure it's not going to happen.
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  • KnaijaQueenKnaijaQueen member
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    It definitely can be a cultural thing. It's quite prevalent in my culture and haven't been to a wedding that didn't have one. For those who have never seen it before, here are a couple pictures to show you what it's like (at least in my culture).




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  • AlisonM304AlisonM304 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_dollar-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:50bf4503-6a40-41c2-94eb-2d5e542c74cfPost:a5d9ed19-ca86-4a8f-accf-e86e8b8f5dd2">Re: Dollar Dance</a>:
    [QUOTE]Every wedding I've ever been to has had one. It must be a regional thing - I live in the Pittsburgh suburbs.
    Posted by robynann07[/QUOTE]

    I'm originally from Northern Wisconsin, and all of the weddings that I've been to up there have had a dollar dance, but none of the weddings I've been to in Southeastern Wisconsin (where I am now) have had one. It might just depend on how recently your family came over or what the fam has been doing in the meantime (most of the fam up north are farmers).
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  • FestivaFestiva
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    I agree with the majority- they are....tacky (sorry!).
    BUT- I personally do NOT dig the bouquet toss nor the garter toss...actually, I loath the garter thing.  It's so classless!!!!!  With older people and children there- it's just bizarre to me that anyone would even want to do that.  The bouquet toss is okay- but the meaning behind it is not one I care to commend by taking part in.
    These things are tradition for most weddings though, and the dollar dance is traditional in certain areas....regardless of my personall opinion that I share on here- I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER elude to my disagreement of such traditional practices at someones wedding. 
    Every single wedding I've ever been to has a garter and bouquet toss, and I just smile pleasantly- hopefully the rest of you guys do the same...=)

    judge the non-traditional, pop their happy little wedding balloons... and sleep better tonight for you have made the world a better place.
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  • jmhcloverjmhclover member
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    I've lived in SE WI my whole life and have been to many weddings.  I had never heard of the dollar dance until my fiance explained it to me.  His family is from Northern WI and apparently it's a big tradition.  In his family all the uncles and other extended family bring large wads of singles to pay to dance with the bride.  He said that it was a way for those relatives to give us a large sum of money as a gift.  In my opinion, if they want to give us a gift, then they should just give us a gift.  I really don't need to feel like a whore or some cheap saloon/dance hall girl on my wedding.  I'm so glad I'm not the only one offended by this tradition.
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  • leslieannlsuleslieannlsu member
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    edited April 2010
    I'm from southwest Louisiana and have never been to a wedding in this area without a dollar dance. I 'm guessing it's a cultural thing but having grown up with this tradition at weddings I don't find anything wrong with it. You don't HAVE to dance with the bride and groom during this song(s) and it is just for fun. However, I can see how if this was not the norm in your area it could seem odd.
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