72 days until the big day

Nancy Irish · February 2010

Any advice?

banana468 · February 2010

Sarah-Jean, the MOH doesn't have "duties". She may have responsibilities if she takes them on but the only things she has to do are be there in the dress on the big day.

OP, print out malphabet's post and read it to your MsOH.

Or mail me their addresses and I'll leave a flaming bag of dog poop on their front steps. They sound like no friends to me!

trix1223 · February 2010

Wow banana! A little feisty there with the bag o'dog poop! I enjoyed that a lot....

banana468 · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_2-matrons-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:6ca4a85f-4ca2-4eac-ada7-8df8e4b8460ePost:8aec02fc-3b70-486a-8e5c-139e40277053">Re: 2 Matrons of Honor</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow banana! A little feisty there with the bag o'dog poop! I enjoyed that a lot....
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

Thanks!

Sometimes, it's necessary to get the point across in a more...visual way.

emilyinchile · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_2-matrons-of-honor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:6ca4a85f-4ca2-4eac-ada7-8df8e4b8460ePost:9c975ac1-6a82-437a-a0e3-169d16d0ce81">Re: 2 Matrons of Honor</a>:
[QUOTE] I would just say to them, "Look, I realize that you don't care for each other. But I asked you both to be Maids of Honor because I care about YOU . You don't have to be friends, you don't even have to talk, but you DO need to be civil. If you really cannot handle that, then maybe you'd be more comfortable attending as a guest. I hope you can put your differences aside because I really want you with me on my wedding day, but if you just can't handle that then I understand."
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

This.

Sarah-Jean · February 2010

In follow up to my previous post, yes I was very honored & excited to help with anything and everything I could. I was simply pointing out that in a situation like Nancy's, it can be tricky having two MOH's, especially if they don't get along (as hers seem to not). My experience was different because we were all good friends. And I do think that a MOH does have "duties" to do, I did as one, and again, I was honored to perform them & to be a part of my best friends wedding prep and day.

banana468 · February 2010

Sarah, it's great that you did things.

But the MOH doesn't have actual "duties".

There are things that she traditionally does, but those aren't things that she "has" to do as MOH.

I compare it to Office Space. You don't want to do "just the minimum" as a MOH but as the Bride you shouldn't expect her to do a ton either.

krmabojo · February 2010

First, I am sorry that things are not going well. You would think two people would be able to set aside differences for a day.

Anyway, I would say tell them seperately and personally, that you wanted two MOH's because they both mean a lot to you. You wanted to honor both of them in your wedding. Tell them that the position in the wedding line does not matter since they are BOTH MOH's. They will both be honored in the program as such. Say you are sorry that they bpth do not get along but for one day could they just try?

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