Who should walk me?

Re: Who should walk me?

• vicki0508 member

  

  April 2011

  You could certainly have both of them walk you.  You could also walk by yourself, have FI walk you, or have your mom walk you.  You could have your step dad walk you down the aisle, but do the father/daughter dance with your dad.

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• saric83 member

  

  April 2011

  I was planning to do both (due to aisle size restriction, I'm just going to walk by myself), and I've been to a few weddings where people had both.  I would just make sure to have a private conversation with your dad about it before you ask your step-dad.  This wouldn't work in every location, but one of my friends had her dad walk her down about half-way, and then her step-dad met them there and finished the rest of the walk with them.  I really liked it since it was symbolic of her life with them. Good luck!

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• afmilner

  

  April 2011

  I am in a very similar situation as well! My father and step-father have both been very instrumental in my life, and I did not want to have to choose one over the other (I think it would have just been too awkward for them to do both). One of my original solutions was to have my mother walk me down the isle. I have lived with her the longest and she was still an amazing mother even when we went through the tough times of it being just the two of us. Also, the mother is "giving away" her daughter just as much as the father is!

  After talking with her about it, we decided that she would walk me down the isle and them my father and step father would be in the first pews, and I would stop and give them both a hug before continuing to the alter. However, just as PP said, the isles in my church are too small! Under normal circumstances, two people can fit, but not when you have a bride in a full length wedding dress! 

  So my final solution is this: I will walk down by myself, and then will stop at the first pews and acknowledge all of my parents with hugs and kisses. It has ended up being the perfect solution Best of luck as you make your decision!

  
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• FutureMrsTru member

  

  April 2011

  I am in a slightly similar situation, though it is my dad and my brother.  My brother has always been a HUGE part of my life, even when my dad was around, and more so when my dad was out of the picture.  In fact, FI asked my brother, not my dad, for my hand in marriage (made me cry even more!!!).  My mom-zilla wants my dad to walk me down the aisle,  when that is not what I want. 
  
  So since I am starting all of the planning, that is going to be one of the things that is going to be important of a venue, if they can accoomadate two people walking me down the aisle. 
  
  My brother is who I want to walk me down, but to please my mom and my dad's family (including my dad obviously), I am going to have them both walk me.  I know that my my brother will be very understanding, who knows about my dad though....
  

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