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Re: New Wedding Trend... Horrific

  • What is it about technology that makes people think it's somehow less rude and hurtful to send an email/letter/notification than saying exactly the same thing to someone's face?!
    Who are these people?!
    Gobsmacked.
  • Sierra524Sierra524 member
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    edited February 2013
    Wow. This is incredibly rude. Exactly why I think that you really shouldnt discuss details of your wedding with anybody that is not going to make it to your guest list. It just gets their hopes up & some people may even assume they are invited because you are sharing all the details. Think before you speak! & dont ever send a "your not invited" email.
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  • I wish I could say I'm shocked but last night I actually saw that Dodge Dart commercial telling people they can register car parts like its a wedding registry.  We seriously need a young modern etiquette maven to establish herself now so the entitled narcissistic brides can't whine "but it's different now."
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  • misshart00misshart00 member
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    edited February 2013
    In Response to Re:New Wedding Trend... Horrific:[QUOTE]I wish I could say I'm shocked but last night I actually saw that Dodge Dart commercial telling people they can register car parts like its a wedding registry.nbsp; We seriously need a youngnbsp;modern etiquette maven to establish herself now so the entitled narcissistic brides can't whine quot;but it's different now.quot; Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    I really don't mean this to be snarky, but if they don't listen to any etiquette advice, why are they going to listen to someone young and new?

    And how would someone establish themselves as the next Emily Post? That's a serious question. Now I want to write a book.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_new-wedding-trend-horrific?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:da69900a-b418-4aa9-bea2-0e4845cdb80cPost:cc2ad6c1-8201-401e-83bc-247bd099280e">Re: New Wedding Trend... Horrific</a>:
    [QUOTE]I wish I could say I'm shocked but last night I actually saw that Dodge Dart commercial telling people they can register car parts like its a wedding registry. <strong> We seriously need a young modern etiquette maven to establish herself now so the entitled narcissistic brides can't whine "but it's different now."
    </strong>Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    Agree totally!

    Why do people feel the need to tell others they are not invited.  I am not old by any means (I am 28) but when I grew up and you didnt' get an invite that pretty much told you that you weren't invited.  And life went on.  Telling someone way ahead of time and having to give explanations why is just rude and insensitive.  And then to do it over the computer and not face to face!  Geesh, lets all figure out more ways to really hurt and put people down.

  • Ugh....

    " Some brave couples alert pals that they’re on “the B list” – as in, should space open up, they’re guaranteed a seat. One New Jersey bride informed second-tier friends they were on the wait list, and sure enough, when there were openings, they gladly accepted the full invite – but not without some blowback. “There was some resentment,” said the bride, who preferred to go unnamed. “One still refers to himself as a ‘B-list’ friend.” "

    SERIOUSLY people?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:New Wedding Trend... Horrific: I really don't mean this to be snarky, but <strong>if they don't listen to any etiquette advice, why are they going to listen to someone young and new?</strong> And how would someone establish themselves as the next Emily Post? That's a serious question. Now I want to write a book.
    Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

    Because their excuse is that the etiquette mavens wrote their rules when buggies and carriages were the mode of transportation.  You know, anyone who was an adult before they were born because that was just sooooo long ago.

    Personally, I would love it if someone on Michelle Obama's staff wrote a book and became a recognized authority like Jackie Kennedy's social secretary Letitia Baldridge did.
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  • I think there definitely needs to be a "newer" book of etiquette rules. Sure, some things have probably changed but for the most part... manners are manners and rudeness is still rude.
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  • I know that I am blunt and have told a few 'aquatiances' that due to the size of out families that we can't invite everyone that we would like, but this is flat out horrible. I would never dream of doing something as rude as send a 'non' invitation. I would even go as far to say that I would reconsider my friendship with anyone who would send me something similar. 
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  • thats just stupid.

    seriously....who sits around and thinks this sort of thing up.


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  • I got a non-invite notification, but TBH, I didn't think anything of it. But maybe it's because I never asked to be invited, nor did I assume I would be? *shrug* I do know a couple of people though that are doing the "B list" thing, though... and I find that more offensive. The "B-listers" don't get STDs or anything, and so what, you just expect someone to make the arrangements to come to your wedding 2 months before the big day? I guess for everyone who is local, though, it wouldn't be a big deal...
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