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linking FB to wedding website?
We're working on a wedding website that will include information for our guests such as the hotels we're reserving for them (in our culture, we pay for hotels and transportation for all guests), the menu (in case someone has allegies or strong dislikes), etc. We won't include anything to do with registries since that's not a cultural practice that we have (people usually just bring w/e they like or cash gifts).
That being said, we were wondering if we should link it to our facebook accounts. Most of the people that are attending are our fb friends, and it may be easier to get that info across than other ways (it's too late to put it on our invites). So convenience is a factor, but I'm worried the etiquette.
The problem I'm considering is people that aren't invited. I don't want to rub it in their face or create expectations (invites have not gone out yet, but we have ordered them and received them, and have committed to a venue that we're almost at capacity with).
What do you think?
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Re: linking FB to wedding website?
[QUOTE]I wouldn't do it, can you order small enclosures with the wedding website on it? Maybe the vistaprint buisness cards? Or even just print at home?
Posted by baileyleev[/QUOTE]
<div>OOH I didn't even think about that for some reason! I suppose I could. What would I say on them though?</div><div>
</div><div>"For more information visit _______________" sounds kinda blah and cold. </div>
ETA: Enclosure cards, definitely!
[QUOTE]You're asking for trouble. Back away from the Facebook, Andra! :)
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
<div>Oh I'm farrrrrr from the facebook lol! I haven't even finished the site yet, luckily!</div><div>
</div><div>I thought that it was a bad idea, but FH was saying "the site is public, so people that aren't invited can see it anyways" so that's why he was thinking FB was the easiest way to share. </div><div>
</div><div>I thought about the uninvited people because there was a recent spat on fb where a friend posted her wedding menu and asked "please let me know if anyone is allergic to anything", and a girl replied that she is allergic to potatoes. So the bride shot back "well you're not even on the guest list". Uh oh... but yea that was a BIG red flag for me when it comes to posting wedding stuff on facebook... I just wanted to make sure I'm on the right path by considering going against it. FH seems to think I'm being paranoid, lol. Men. </div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: linking FB to wedding website? : That's what most people say. I wouldn't worry about it sounding cold.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
<div>Ah, ok. Maybe fh is right and I am being paranoid. I tend to overthink some things like a crazy person!</div>
[QUOTE]I wouldn't put it on FB. I tend to think FB is the devil when wedding planning, though-- even if most of your guests are invited, some of them aren't, and you run a real risk of offending those people, or them assuming they're invited. ETA: Enclosure cards, definitely!
Posted by GretchenLaRoux[/QUOTE]
<div>I can see why FB would be the devil when it comes to wedding planning! It really does lead to a lot of assumptions and doesn't end up fun for everyone. I think we'll stick to enclosure cards idea :)</div>
[QUOTE]what about just emailing your guests?
Posted by HockeyFan4[/QUOTE]
<div>Yet another thing neither of us thought of. We were stuck at the fb/no facebook phase... I guess we could put out an email with the info, too!</div>
[QUOTE]I wouldn't link it on your FB wall or anywhere public on FB. The enclosure card is a good idea. Or what about just e-mailing your guests a link? Or sending them a private FB message with the link, rather than linking it on your wall or whatever?
Posted by LP11509[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>PM on fb would be ok, too! Basically what fh and I were just discussing (after reading the replies on this thread) would be that emails are hard to track, and we already have 90% of the addresses. So I think it's between PM-ing a link on fb or enclosure cards. I vote the cards, they will get across to those who don't use computers, as well.</div>
[QUOTE]Put it on the enclosure card, and you'll be fine. You might want to say "Details" instead of "Information" (I don't know why, but the former sounds friendlier, and I'm weird) but otherwise I think having it anywhere that it can be easily shared is not a good thing. Especially given the insanity of your FILs. All you need to spread something around FB is a click of the "Share" button.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
<div>I think I'm just as weird as you when it comes to that :) I'm trying to google some cute ways of saying that on enclosure cards, but if I don't find anything, I'll just use the standard, as other posters have suggested :)</div><div>
</div><div>And good point about FIL insanity! And she has fb!</div>
[QUOTE]Ditto PPs, do enclosure cards. We did ones that read: "For details on parking and accommodations, please visit our wedding website at..."
Posted by ECook25[/QUOTE]
<div>Thanks, this seems to be what we're leaning towards at the moment!</div>
[QUOTE]I'm doing Vistaprint buisiness cards. They just say "for more information visit. . .". I used an e-pic as the background to make it a little more personal.
Posted by dramaqueen91087[/QUOTE]
<div>I like the e-pic idea, thanks!</div>
[QUOTE]<--- misread and thought you already sent your invites....yup just do an enclosure card :)
Posted by HockeyFan4[/QUOTE]
<div>Ah, no the wedding is still a year away :) We just got the invites now because my dad's friend has (had?) a printing company, but unfortunately, it's not doing too well and he's closing it up soon :(</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: linking FB to wedding website? : PM on fb would be ok, too! Basically what fh and I were just discussing (after reading the replies on this thread) would be that emails are hard to track, and we already have 90% of the addresses. So I think it's between PM-ing a link on fb or enclosure cards. <strong>I vote the cards, they will get across to those who don't use computers, as well.</strong>
Posted by andra loves andre[/QUOTE]
<div>People who don't use computers wouldn't look up a wedding website anyways.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: linking FB to wedding website? : People who don't use computers wouldn't look up a wedding website anyways.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
<div>That's true, but if they need to figure out their accomodations, they'll have to find someone to help them with a computer. There's no way we'd be able to include all the necessary info on inserts, unfortunately :(</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: linking FB to wedding website? : That's true, but if they need to figure out their accomodations, they'll have to find someone to help them with a computer. There's no way we'd be able to include all the necessary info on inserts, unfortunately :(
Posted by andra loves andre[/QUOTE]
<div>I'm sure word will get to those people about hotels/travel stuff and they can just call to book.</div>
But agreed with PPs it would be a little rude to make one where the people who weren't invited could see.
If you want to use facebook for anything, make a wedding guests group. Simple to do, add invited people to the group. When putting something wedding related on your wall, or sending a message, make sure it's set to only show to this group.