I don't feel that I deserve the title "Marine Bride"

Re: I don't feel that I deserve the title "Marine Bride"

• firsttimersluck member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  You can call yourself a bride.. that's what you are. You are also a Marine's bride, sure. Call yourself what you want, but your fiance' is proud of being a Marine and be careful not to take that pride away from him.
  Let people call you want they want. It's not inaccurate to call you that, since he is a Marine... I, personally, like being called a bride flat out. I am proud of my fiance, but the Navy is his job, not mine. but how often do you actually get called this? I mean.. it's only when I meet with vendors and things that I am called "the bride" ...

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• LetsHikeToday member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with first.
  
  First and foremost, I was a bride. My H was in the Navy but no one called me a Navy bride. I'm a teacher and no one called me a teacher bride.
  
  Just smile graciously.

  

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• firsttimersluck member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Lol, I'm officially calling you a teacher bride. Just so you know. :]

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• iluvmytxrgr member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Once a Marine, always a Marine.  I wouldn't sweat it. 

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• LetsHikeToday member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Haha. I might call myself teacher wife :-)

  

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• SamiJoeB

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  I mean, I wouldn't worry about it.. like at all. If I were in your shoes and someone called me that, I'd just laugh and smile.  If they bought me a tshirt or something that said that I would smile, and probably never wear it.  But like PP's said.. how often are you even being called that?
  
  
  

  

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• calindi member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  My FI is also inactive ready reserves, as he's in law school while preparing for a JAG career. So it's a bit different as my guy is gearing up and yours is winding down his military career. However, once a Marine, always a Marine. Seriously. It becomes part of who they are, a big part of their identity. Have you met any of his friends in the Corps? It may help you understand. I agree with the other women, though - it's part of his identity, not yours. Anytime someone calls me a Marine bride, I correct them, "Oh no no no, I never joined the Corps. I'm just the girl who will be wearing white, and he's MY groom!"

  
  
  
  
  
  

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• LuluP82 member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_dont-feel-deserve-title-marine-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:0db60b86-7eb6-472f-8f4a-5f3e88601691Post:3b1a7011-60bf-4829-9ff8-b47b07bbc9aa">Re: I don't feel that I deserve the title "Marine Bride"</a>:
  [QUOTE]My FI is also inactive ready reserves, as he's in law school while preparing for a JAG career. So it's a bit different as my guy is gearing up and yours is winding down his military career. However, once a Marine, always a Marine. Seriously. It becomes part of who they are, a big part of their identity. Have you met any of his friends in the Corps? It may help you understand. I agree with the other women, though - <strong>it's part of his identity, not yours. Anytime someone calls me a Marine bride, I correct them, "Oh no no no, I never joined the Corps. I'm just the girl who will be wearing white, and he's MY groom!"
  </strong>Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
  
  Yup, I agree. It's like when people ask me if I'm military. No. My H is military. Just today at the airport, a military wife asked me if I was military and I said no, my H is a Marine. And she said, that's what I meant. I didn't say anything because we were making smalltalk at an airport, but it's a pet peeve of mine as well.

  

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• crownsuperstar member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_dont-feel-deserve-title-marine-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:0db60b86-7eb6-472f-8f4a-5f3e88601691Post:58fdbbb2-6950-431b-a41f-5a74d49996d5">Re: I don't feel that I deserve the title "Marine Bride"</a>:
  [QUOTE]Haha. I might call myself teacher wife :-)
  Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
  
  Hike- is that a new reality tv show I am hearing?? HAA! I could be like the "Real Housewives" HAA!!! That is great! 
  
  To the OP however, I was a bride. No one every called me an Army bride. 

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• letyourselfgo

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  It's actually pretty often. This particular group of friends started addressing me as "Marine Bride" originally, from what I can tell, as a joke. Since I didn't know what to say to that, it's kind of taken the place of my name among them. Like, "Hey! Marine Bride! Come over here!"
  
  All in good fun, I guess. I'll just tell them that while I'm proud to be marrying a Marine, there is no need to call me "Marine Bride" day in and day out.
  
  My FI actually finds all of this to be quite hilarious and thinks that if I just leave it alone, eventually it will get old and they'll stop.
  
  Thanks for your advice ladies!
  

  "Who died and made you Dagon?" - stackeye210 I'm supposed to be falling for myself...and not falling for just any guy out there in the world.....

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• LetsHikeToday member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_dont-feel-deserve-title-marine-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:0db60b86-7eb6-472f-8f4a-5f3e88601691Post:c6978324-6676-4714-9aa6-f67627340e26">Re: I don't feel that I deserve the title "Marine Bride"</a>:
  [QUOTE]It's actually pretty often. This particular group of friends started addressing me as "Marine Bride" originally, from what I can tell, as a joke. Since I didn't know what to say to that, it's kind of taken the place of my name among them. Like, "Hey! Marine Bride! Come over here!" All in good fun, I guess. I'll just tell them that while I'm proud to be marrying a Marine, there is no need to call me "Marine Bride" day in and day out. My FI actually finds all of this to be quite hilarious and thinks that if I just leave it alone, eventually it will get old and they'll stop. Thanks for your advice ladies!
  Posted by letyourselfgo[/QUOTE]
  
  When we were wedding planning, it drove me crazy that people used the wedding and being a bride as my identity. People stopped asking how I was and started asking how wedding planning was. It was as if every other part of me didn't matter other than my wedding.
  
  It drove me crazy. I started voicing it to people too. I didn't want to be known as "a bride". I didn't want to talk about plans everyday. I wanted to talk about my dog, running, books I was reading, etc.
  
  I will always find it weird that, as soon as someone gets engaged, she is no longer a regular person but a bride.
  
  When people would say, "Hey bride" to me, I always reminded them that I had a name.  

  

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• calindi member

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  letyourselfgo - you're getting married about two weeks before me!  Yay!  Honestly, don't let it bother you - they probably mean it as a joke.  And even though your FI isn't active duty, he's still a Marine and you are still a Marine's bride, so you can certainly feel comfortable that you aren't a 'poser' or anything.  Your FI served his country, and that's something you both should be very proud of whether or not he's still active duty. 
  
  My FFIL wanted to buy me a bumper sticker that said, "Beware: I have a Marine and I know how to use him."  It made me giggle, but not for the reasons FFIL thought!  I just have a dirty mind haha!

  
  
  
  
  
  

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