I'll try to keep this thing short. I can't say that I have one of those totally psycho MOHs, but she (and her hubby who is the BM) are certainly making things stressful.
When she asked me what I wanted to do and if there was anything I didn't want for my shower that she would be throwing, I told her I was really ok with just about anything, but since she was asking about things I DIDN'T want also, I told her....please....no tea parties/frilly pink themed showers. This is just not me at all, and she knows this. She planned something I was super excited about for October and said she'd mail the invites.
2 weeks later, she still had not sent them, and called to tell me she changed everything and would be doing a tea party at a tea house where she would be encouraging everyone to dress up and wear tea hats. I thought she was kidding but about a month later when everyone got their invites (they were pink....) I knew she was not. She also didn't ask me about the date, and ended up planning it for Labor Day weekend....already, quite a few people aren't able to make it because it's a holiday weekend. I asked her if there was any way we could change the date, and she threw a fit.
I've had several people who are close to me tell me that since I specifically said NO when she asked (it's not that I just gave that info unsolicited) that I should say something about the theme and the date and have her change it.
There has been a lot of conflict with her and her hubby since the beginning.....she complained about the dress, is completely lost and disorganized with the couple of small things I've asked her to help with, and her huband completely ruined all of the plans for my FI bachlorette party, so that's a wash now.
We feel so frustrated and upset, we are only doing this marriage thing once. But so far, they have been nothing but stressful, and have really dropped the ball on several occasions not mentioned here. It worries me what else they will drop the ball on, especially as the big day gets closer. We know we need to talk to them (again), but how do I handle plans she makes for me? Side note, we've already asked if it's too much for them, and they swear it's not a time or money issue, they just "procratinate". Um....