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three days before and I DO NOT need this garbage

mrsjustinm2bmrsjustinm2b
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oh wow, three days until my wedding and I ma being driven right nuts by both the moms and now one of my BM's decides to go all needy/crazy on me.

She began texting me on Tuesday evening, when I had my cell off because I needed a break and then start getting all these texts "helllooooo????" etc on Wednesday morning and I was busy getting my hair/makeup trial done. This culminates with me getting the following text, not having responded to the several previous texts having been busy: "K well I guess it too busy to talk to me...have been trying to get a hold of u since yesterday. Call me when you can make some time for me."
WTF??
I texted back " Yesterday I was actually getting five minutes to myself without my [phone and today am running all over town and getting me hair trial done. I'm busy dude, its three days until the wedding. What do you need?"

She then goes "Excuuuuse me for asking for a moment of your time." OMG ITS THREE DAYS UNTIL MY WEDDING!!! of course I'm busy. Now I'm getting the silent treatment and I really am going to loose it....I do NOT have time for her selfish crap right now. I don't even know what to do about this. At this point I really just want to pick up the phone and say "who the hell do you think you are, trying to pull crap on me right now?" WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS PERSON!
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    She probably doesn't know how busy you are and maybe she had something she really wanted to talk to you about.  Cut her some slack and take a deep breath.  I'm sure you're feeling a bit overwhelmed with only a few days let and many things to finish but your friend may not know that.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    Your friend may have been concerned about you because you have been so stressed out, lately. Isn't she part of your support system? I think you over reacted.
                       
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  • bstentbstent member
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry, but I agree with MariePoppy, I think you overreacted. You don't have to give her hours or even more than a few minutes of your time, but how long does it take to acknowledge a friend (best friend at that) who's trying to get in touch with you? If I was in your position I would take a few deep breaths, find 5 minutes in my day to call her, apologize for blowing her off, tell her that I have to get off the phone at X time because I have appointments to get to, but I just wanted to check in and see what she was trying to reach me for. I get that you're busy and I understand that she's being kind of annoying and needy, but she's your best friend. Give her a quick call!
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  • LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
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    edited December 2011
    Just breeeeeeathe. This sounds like a gigantic misunderstanding. Tell her that you weren't trying to shut her out or ignore her, you were just stressed and busy because the wedding was so soon. It may be that she DID have something really important to talk about, or maybe she's excited and wants to chat. Things can be easily misconstrued, especially during a stressful time (for lots of people, not just you, remember!), and you need to make it clear you didn't mean to ignore her or snub her.

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  • lindseyann410lindseyann410 member
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    edited December 2011
    It all seems a bit overdramatic.

    Call her up/text her and apologize.  It seemed like she just wanted to talk to you, which isn't crazily demanding, since you know, she's your friend.
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    I too think you overreacted. Your friend deserves an apology.
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  • mrsjustinm2bmrsjustinm2b
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    edited December 2011
    She had absolutly nothing to say. After having spoken with her and apologized for blowing her off she procceeded to go off on me about how I'm way too busy all the time. Excuse me buddy we get together at least once a week, I have a job and its three days from my wedding...how much more available would you like me to be?? This is just really pissing me off right now because she does crap like this, calling me at 10am when I've just worked a night and am sleeping and getting her panties in a bunch when I don't answer...CAUSE I'M SLEEPING!! I'm so tired of being told to justify my priorties to someone who is supposed to be my friend. She's like a bad, moody BF sometimes.
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_three-days-before-not-need-this-garbage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:6a20d839-0b2b-471a-89bf-ef86b94bcb0cPost:1a92e662-0f7a-45f7-8d9c-0850f638940b">Re: three days before and I DO NOT need this garbage</a>:
    [QUOTE]She had absolutly nothing to say. After having spoken with her and apologized for blowing her off she procceeded to go off on me about how I'm way too busy all the time. Excuse me buddy we get together at least once a week, I have a job and its three days from my wedding...how much more available would you like me to be?? This is just really pissing me off right now because she does crap like this, calling me at 10am when I've just worked a night and am sleeping and getting her panties in a bunch when I don't answer...CAUSE I'M SLEEPING!! I'm so tired of being told to justify my priorties to someone who is supposed to be my friend. She's like a bad, moody BF sometimes.
    Posted by mrsjustinm2b[/QUOTE]

    So what you're saying is this behavior is nothing new.
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  • LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    edited December 2011
    I had a friend who was always wanting more and more of my time, even though I ahd VERY limited time at that point and she had a lot of time and just didn't understand =/ I eventually ended up running down my schedule for her and telling her that I was already spending as much time with her as I could, and that it was more than any of my other friends OR my FI were getting and that her demand for "more" made me feel pressured and stressed. She backed off.

    Chances are, your BF is just used to you being more patient with her demands for time =/ I would just say, patiently, to her that you're very busy and that you spend as much time with her as you possibly can because you love her, but that she needs to respect your busy schedule.

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  • covejackcovejack
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_three-days-before-not-need-this-garbage?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:6a20d839-0b2b-471a-89bf-ef86b94bcb0cPost:ffeae675-2391-45e8-9449-4b2ed490e767">Re: three days before and I DO NOT need this garbage</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: three days before and I DO NOT need this garbage : So what you're saying is this behavior is nothing new.
    Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

    ^^this^^
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