Thank-You Cards?

Re: Thank-You Cards?

• [Deleted User] member

  

  August 2010

  This question has come up so much on my month board. Basically, it was about a half and half response.
  
  H and I sent TY's to everyone who came. The reason being is that we had a few family members who were financially unable to give a gift, but we still wanted to acknowledge their presence and thank them for sharing our special day. Plus I didn't want family members to talk about receiving their TY's and the other feel left out bc they couldn't afford a gift for us.
  
  I don't think there is any hard and fast etiquette on this one, but either way is fine. Whatever you and your H feel comfortable with is fine.
  

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• bellebride116

  

  August 2010

  We only sent TY's to those who gave gifts. 

  
  

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• Theresa626 member

  

  August 2010

  We sent thank yous to people who came and didn't bring gifts (it was only one couple).  If they forgot to get you a gift, they might remember when they get a thank you from you because they feel bad and if they don't at least you look like a great bride.  If you had a ton of people that brought nothing though, I probably wouldn't bother.  

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• amberlynned member

  

  August 2010

  Proper Emily Post etiquette dictates that you send a card to everyone that attended. I'm guessing its because they did get up, get dressed, drive there, sit & witness your day, etc. And, you have 2-3 months to get them out.

  
  

  We are sending cards to everyone that came because they made those efforts and like the PP said, not everyone was able to contribute a gift due to financial problems but they did come.
  

  
  

   

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• BrittKnight

  

  August 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_thank-cards-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:12Discussion:edce3d22-90e4-43cd-9f83-32da46b0c3f3Post:fee216f5-160f-4430-993b-0ed00a331239">Re: Thank-You Cards?</a>:
  [QUOTE]We sent thank yous to people who came and didn't bring gifts (it was only one couple).  If they forgot to get you a gift, they might remember when they get a thank you from you because they feel bad and if they don't at least you look like a great bride.  If you had a ton of people that brought nothing though, I probably wouldn't bother.  
  Posted by Theresa626[/QUOTE]
  
  I definitely agree with this!  You never know if someone meant to give you a gift and genuinely forgot...or if they never intended on giving anything in the first place.  Also, they may have sent something and it was never received.  This will let them know in a subtle way it was never received.  At least if you send it to everyone, you will know for sure shortly afterwards if a gift was forgotten.  This would put my mind to rest.  This is one of the reasons I am constantly updating my facebook status with "got another bridal shower/wedding gift."  It is a gentle reminder also for those who have said they were sending you a gift, but it one that did not ever arrive.  :)

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• sar919

  

  September 2010

  I agree with Theresa. We only had a few people who did not give us a gift or card. Maybe it was because they were financially unable to do so, or maybe they forgot.  We still are not sure, but we may send "thank you for attending the wedding" notes to them.

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