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Pre-wedding Parties

Sharing a shower

I am getting married in mid August, my sister is getting married 2 weeks after me (she is having a much smaller wedding with just Family and then a reception a few weeks later. I am having a more traditional wedding with larger reception all on my day)

My Aunt's offered to host a family shower for me a few months ago. Recently the idea was brought up that my Sister and I share a shower. I am not really fond of the idea for a few reasons. The main one being my Wedding is larger than my Sister's and so the guest list for the shower would be different for each of us. Also, my Sister and I don't really have the same tastes or themes to our weddings. I love love the color pink and playing games and all the shower fun and my sister is more fond of dark colors and isn't really into the whole shower scene.

I don't want to be selfish but, I feel like I only get married once (God willing!) and I would really like a day of my own. I don't want to come off as a difficult Bride when trying to explain this to my hosts. I am so very grateful they offered to host a shower for me in the first place. How can I explan I really wouldn't like to share my day?

Re: Sharing a shower

  • Honestly I don't think it's appropriate soley for the guest list etiquette.  Everyone invited must be invited to the wedding, in this case 2 weddings.  Since this is not the case I would just decline.
     
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  • I am going to meet with my Aunt's later this week so hopefully we can get everything worked out. Thank you!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_sharing-a-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:a43ae73a-def3-4450-97b9-0036a0254338Post:cd82982b-1909-4e95-bc07-b160877e47b4">Re: Sharing a shower</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am going to meet with my Aunt's later this week so hopefully we can get everything worked out. Thank you!
    Posted by AngelinaC02[/QUOTE]

    Explain the guests will feel obligated to by gifts for both brides even though they may only know 1 of you.  This is unfair to them.  Also if one bride gets more gifts/ nicer gifts than they other it's going to be uncomfortable for everyone.
     
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