Frisky Friday

junebug19 · March 2012

Hello, Sorry I'm late! That seems to be the theme for my morning. Anyway:

Between your FI and yourself, who came into the relationship with more "experience"? Did that make either one of you uncomfortable?

celticmyss · March 2012

I think we are pretty even. We've never discussed actual numbers but I think it's the same ballpark. We're both serial monogamists that have spent most of our sexually active years with a few long term partners.

junebug19 · March 2012

I definetly came into our relationship with more experience. I have been in 2 other long term, some what serious relationships and have had a fewww more partners than him. I think it has to do with the fact that I went to college and he did not, that is where I had most of my fun; I flirt a little more easily than he does and he also went to a technical HS and spent most of his time in the plumbing department, where there was only 1 female student in the trade; he left HS and has been in construction. Not as much oppurtunity as me I guess.
It hasn't really been a problem though, he doesn't ask many questions and seems to enjoy what I've learned.

SCogs18 · March 2012

FI definitely had more experience than me in terms of the number of people, but perhaps not the length of his relationships. I went to a private K-12 school so I grew up with all the kids I went to high school with...we really didn't date much, it would be weird, we all had brother/sister relationships.

I really came into my own in college. I got a lot of male attention and I quite liked it. I am a dedicated monogamist, and dated 1 guy exclusively. FI and I started dating 3 months after that relationship ended.

He had dated a few girls before me, but not a tremendous number. FI is all talk and bravado, on the inside he is still a little shy so his number wasn't enough to scare me away.

mamameech · March 2012

Not something we really talk about because neither of want to think about it or want it to have an impact on the "now" and the "future", but I definitely have more notches on my belt so-to-speak lol. I was a little bit of a wild one and did a lot stupid stuff... FI was a good little christian boy and didn't even have a real gf until he was into his 20s (who really broke his heart and made it very difficult for me!! lol). I'm still the one who is more "wild" but I think he likes it lol

josephwedding · March 2012

mamameech, we're in the same boat lol. I was the wild & crazy one. FI had dated some people before me, but nothing really serious. Edit: FI is still a virgin. I lost mine prior to becoming a Christian. We're waiting until we're married, but from what I know of his past relationships (pre-Christian) he wasn't a prude.

romamor4 · March 2012

I have to say as far as actual relationships go, FI has many more under his belt than me. He's always been a romantic and would ...you know what, I feel sick to my stomach thinking about it so I am going to stop right here.

agladhill · March 2012

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[QUOTE]mamameech, we're in the same boat lol. I was the wild & crazy one. FI had dated some people before me, but nothing really serious.
Posted by josephwedding[/QUOTE]

Ditto this for me too! But the few my FI dated must have taught him well, because he is amazing at what he does. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

hollyweenOR · March 2012

By every metric, I've racked up more mileage. He's shy and was always into music and computers and did not date much at all, even in college. I was a busy gal in college, and then I was with my ex for 9 years. Then got sorta busy again (tho not like the old days). It's made things a little challenging at times, especially at the beginning.

kellycatalo · March 2012

we both have had one serious relationship prior to us dating. I dated a guy for 3 years in hs but we were both unexperienced going into that, and we never had sex through out that whole time (at that point i wanted to wait until marriage... lol). dan dated a girl for like 8-9 months, and i know that they had sex, so i guess technically he was more experienced going in, though i had dated someone for much longer than he had.

at this point though, it really doesn't matter. we've been together for almost 5 years, and have known eachother for 8. anything we've had previously is nothing in comparison to now.

morenachica110 · March 2012

FI didn't have too many gfs before me. I think he had about 3 and they were all relatively short relationships. I think one girl he really, really liked but he found out she was married (didn't tell him!) so he ended it immediately. A few other were just kind of flings. I, on the other hand, was head over heels for the typical loser (looking back I was so stupid about it, too) and he broke my heart. So, of course, I start dating a bunch of guys just because (didn't sleep around though).

As far as sex? Technically I get that one. I have two including FI and he has just me. =P It sounds sweet, but it was actually a giant fight back in the day. We had finally had sex and after a couple of months finally revealed he had been a virgin. It upset me only because he kept it from me and I felt/feel that I had the right to know and choose whether I wanted that or not. Guess it's too late now, though. =P

I do have to say (since we're being frisky today =P) that he had a girl he nicknamed "Beaver". lmao! So I know I definitely rule in that department! hahaha!

BMcLeodTeam · March 2012

I definitely came in with more experience, FI was very innocent!

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

This is a topic that is kinda unclear for us. I believe I may be more experienced because, like Junebug, I went to college and had a few solid relationships there and after. FI was the type that dated a different girl every month but mostly because they all dumped him. From what we discussed, I think we are pretty even though. The biggest thing for me was that the girl he dated before me had been pregnant, and about a month and a half before we met she lost the baby (how exactly is unclear as I never got the straight story). There is a solid chance the baby was NOT FI's because she was constantly cheating on him but he stayed faithful to her because there was a chance it was his. It took me a very long time to get over this fact because for the first few months of our relationship there were still reminders and mumblings about the situation. However, I eventually got over it when I realized that I was meant to be the real future mother of his kids.

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

FI was actually my first so he wins the experience title. He had only been with a few other women so it wasn't really a problem. At 22 years old I wasn't expecting to meet another virgin (nor did I really want to....wanted someone who knew where they were aiming). FI knew in advance that I had my V-card and I think I started falling in love with him when we were fooling around and I finally wanted to do it and he wouldn't because he was afraid it was just the heat of the moment (he stopped it even though we had already gotten the condom on him and still had the willpower to make sure I was ready!). He was also my first "real" bf. I had dated around but never committed to someone. Even though I was a virgin, I think my 22 years of bottled up libido paid off. Previous women FI had been with were what he called "boring." They did like 2 positions and only in standard places. So despite our experience imbalance we both had waited a long time to explore that there is a lot more to sex than missionary...and we got to do that together!

I do win the experience make-out title. I'm not even sure of my real number (thank you, college frat parties) but I'd guess I've probably kissed 6 times as many people as FI hahaha

smartlypretty · March 2012

I wasn't a wh*re or anything in college, but I got a lot of male attention and thus have more experience than FI. He was actually a virgin when we started dating (we were both about 21 or 22). When we first started dating it kind of bothered me in the sense that I was like, "Before this gets serious, are you *SURE* you don't want to go out there and see some other women???" but he was all "Nope, I'm totally obsessed with you". So there you have it.

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I wasn't a wh*re or anything in college, but I got a lot of male attention and thus have more experience than FI. He was actually a virgin when we started dating (we were both about 21 or 22). When we first started dating it kind of bothered me in the sense that I was like,<strong> "Before this gets serious, are you *SURE* you don't want to go out there and see some other women???"</strong> but he was all "Nope, I'm totally obsessed with you". So there you have it.
Posted by smartlypretty[/QUOTE]

FI asked me this same thing which threw me for a while. And he has had some women cheat on him before so for a while he was really concerned that one day I'd regret being with only one person and cheat too. I told him actually that it probably would keep me faithful (if God forbid I was ever tempted). I waited that long and now we have something special. Saying not only did I cheat but that incredibly special thing where you're the only one I've been with is also gone....way too much guilt to handle.

MrsBassPlaya · March 2012

As far as relationships go, I've had more long term serious ones than FI. We both had one very serious years long relationships, but I've had a few others longer than a year. He's only had the one, then has dated lots of girls for a couple weeks, etc.

As far as sex goes, FI has a few more notches than I do. Both of us graduated HS with our V cards, and if you look at dates, we probably both lost them within about a month of each other. Most of my sex has been within relationships (only one 1night stand), FI was in a band, and girls really do throw themselves at guys in bands, so he brough home more skanky bar girls than he had sex with girls in a relationship. (It wasn't an all the time thing though. His number isn't that bad).

I would say that we were never uncomfortable about it. We had pretty frank conversations about it all early on. Now it doesn't ever come up.

saturninus · March 2012

Me. *High Five*!

Laur110 · March 2012

I have more experience...

I have had two long term relationships besides FI. Also, there have been other guys that I did various things with. (Being a little wild after long term relationships ended.)

When I met FI, we were both 18 at the time and he was a V. We dated for a few years, broke up, and then got back together. I'm still his 1 and only.

island07b2b · March 2012

He did and I absolutely love it. Hee-Hee.

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