Attending a Shower tomorrow

kaos16 · August 2012

I'm going to a shower tomorrow for a very close family friend. I was looking at her registry today and saw that almost nothing has been purchased that she has asked for.

On one hand I feel a little bad for her, while on the other hand I am judging hardcore because her registry has 3 toasters and a toaster oven on it. . . . 3 different china patters. . . . . an $800 ceramic figurine, etc. It's kinda making me not want to really get her anything she asked for, which is awful to say!

hoffse · August 2012

Eh I judge that sort of thing too. She probably went scan-gun happy. With that much stuff she'll prob be mostly getting gift cards because nobody knows which toaster she actually wants, KWIM? But go ahead and get her something small - is there anything that she only registered for one type of? Grammar on that last sentence is bad, but I think you get the picture.

dazyabbey · August 2012

I love seeing peoples gift registries... and yeah, sometimes I judge. We had a family member who registered for odd things like a 65 inch TV and a bike and a weight lifting bench. I thought it was a little weird. They also had 4 different dinnerwear paterns. We ended up just getting them a pot they asked for and stuffed it with a gift card and a couple of towels they asked for. I would just see if you can add things up on there to your price point and sit back and enjoy watching her open presents, because you know it will be entertaining!

HobokensFury · August 2012

I can't lie I judge too. Someone I know wanted 4 blenders. Who the hell needs 4 blenders? Give her something you can afford and don't feel bad for her.

MairePoppy · August 2012

No one is obligated to buy a gift off the couples registry. If there is nothing within your price range, feel free to buy something else that you think she would like. If you're wrong, she can return it, right?

hoffse · August 2012

Lol I'm so glad I'm not the only one who judges. I honestly don't judge multiple dish patterns, as long as they are clearly for different things - like one is clearly formal, one clearly everyday, and one is obviously for casual entertaining or for the holidays, etc. I have seen people register for 2 or 3 fine china patterns though and that confuses the hell out of me. I think the thing I see most often where that sort of thing happens is pots and pans - they will register for like 4 different sets because they really want the all-clad but don't think anybody will buy it for them... so they put it on there just in case, but then throw in a couple of calphalon lines that they can return when they don't get their all-clad.

Oh and PP, I also judge TVs.

kaos16 · August 2012

Can we also talk about the fact that they have a honeymoon registry, and one at Sears where her or her darling fiance put a little blurb about how the items on that registry are merely suggestions and they'd prefer giftcards or cash so they can start fresh in a new house they want to purchase. . . . i'm kinda glad i discovered those gems before I went shopping at lunch!

dazyabbey · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_attending-a-shower-tomorrow?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:25ee5202-489e-43e0-a94d-91c5b7af6b84Post:c74764a6-59bd-4351-8912-fb91b13b429f">Re: Attending a Shower tomorrow</a>:
[QUOTE]Can we also talk about the fact that they have a honeymoon registry, and one at Sears where her or her darling fiance put a little blurb about how the items on that registry are merely suggestions and they'd prefer giftcards or cash so they can start fresh in a new house they want to purchase. . . . i'm kinda glad i discovered those gems before I went shopping at lunch!
Posted by kaos16[/QUOTE]

That is ridiculous. And gives people that actually follow the rules/etiquette a bad name.

hoffse · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_attending-a-shower-tomorrow?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:25ee5202-489e-43e0-a94d-91c5b7af6b84Post:c74764a6-59bd-4351-8912-fb91b13b429f">Re: Attending a Shower tomorrow</a>:
[QUOTE]Can we also talk about the fact that they have a honeymoon registry, and one at Sears where her or her darling fiance put a little blurb about how the items on that registry are merely suggestions and they'd prefer giftcards or cash so they can start fresh in a new house they want to purchase. . . . i'm kinda glad i discovered those gems before I went shopping at lunch!
Posted by kaos16[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>OK that's pretty bad... I once saw one of those blurbs phrased as "we will also accept gift cards to the following places:" on their website - it's like, are you a store or something that only accepts certain types of credit cards? That's how that sort of thing is usually phrased...</div><div>
</div><div>But by far the most memorable tacky wedding gift moment ever for me was at a wedding where the groom stood by the basket for cards instead of welcoming his guests... and once it was clear that everybody had arrived, he opened the cards, counted the cash in front of everyone, and then pocketted it. What makes it worse is that this wedding took place in Atlanta, and many people give physical gifts at weddings down here. So he completely ignored all the boxed gifts, asked his bride when she could return them to the stores for cash, and didn't even help carry them to the car at the end of the afternoon because he was so annoyed that somebody would buy him something off of the registry instead of giving cash. My parents, who had spent a lot of money for a VERY nice gift off of their registry, were not pleased... particularly since my dad was recruited to carry the gifts to the car.

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cwaggoner07 · August 2012

My office throws very lavish showers (800-1000 in gifts from the registry) and a girl that got married the same month as me kept bragging how the ONLY reason they were doing a registry was because of the work shower because they had everything they could possibly need (granted her FI appeared to be loaded) and their parents were giving them lots of money.

So when she registered I went and looked and it was like a $200 wooden music box, a $300 vase and a $500 serving bowl, and other random things like that.
I judged her SO hard. And didn't go to her shower at work because 'I had a meeting.'
In retrospect it was kind of petty, but at the time H and I were scraping to afford our wedding, and all of our registry gifts were very much needed and I felt so uncomfortable around her.

LuckyGirl1713 · August 2012

I love love love looking at people's registries and I form opinions form this registries. Is it horrible-probably. Will I keep doing it-definitely. It's human nature!

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