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  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    I'd ignore your FMIL. Sounds like she's just backpeddling. She probably thinks she somehow pressured you into picking her, and now she feels bad (likely because someone told her it was an awful thing to do).

    You get to have who you want in your party.  And since it includes your FSIL, then treat her as you would the rest of your BM, and plan for her to be there.
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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    Talk to your FSIL.  Tell her that her mother should have never said anything to her about being your BM and then ask her.  Tell her to take some time to think about it if she needs it.  Then tell your FMIL that you don't want to hear any more comments about your FSIL.
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    You can also have your FI step in and tell his mother to knock it off.
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  • mcskatcatmcskatcat member
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    Your FMIL sounds like she's trying to create drama.  I kind of get the vibe that maybe she's just trying to pull strings or she's mad at FSIL for some reason and wants to carry it out this way, but who knows.  

    Bottom line, I would first tell FMIL that you want FSIL in your wedding - because it sounds like you do - and I would ask FSIL discreetly if there have been any issues between her and FMIL given what FMIL has been saying.
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  • jnjmommy0609jnjmommy0609 member
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    Do you ever make an attempt to hang out with your FSIL and get to know her? If not then it seems like your FMIL has a backwards way of trying to get a certain point across.
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  • HandBananaHandBanana member
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    Ditto on ignoring FMIL. I would even try to hang out with FSIL because, well, she is gonna be your SIL. Also, how cool of you to buy their dresses!
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  • jahjbmrjahjbmr
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    I agree to ignore her
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  • hufflepuffponyhufflepuffpony member
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    Do what makes you happy, if your FMIL isn't willing to tell you to your face she doesn't want her daughter in your wedding then that's just too bad. Do what you think is right. This isn't anyone else's wedding. Its YOURS. So if you want your FSIL in the wedding then that is your decision, no one else's.
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