Other options?

elinwoods · June 2010

I'm not anywhere close to being engaged, but I have a friend who recently got engaged. We've been talking about a ton of things and I brought up that I don't want an engagement ring.

I don't wear rings. They just sort of get in the way, plus I don't like the way they look on me. Just not my thing.

Are you aware of any other customs that would still allow the rest of the world to know we are engaged but wouldn't require me to wear a ring?

Thanks,

E

dwest2201 · June 2010

Flower in your hair on whichever side means taken...? Tattoo on ring finger?

I got nothing else.

oceana919 · June 2010

Does it really matter that the rest of the world knows?

Acrosthec · June 2010

The only custom I can find is some article that talks about how women used to get engagement thimbles before the e-ring was popular.

Some people get tattoo rings, if the metal itself bothers them or they can't wear a ring due to work, etc.

Here's an article that may be somewhat helpful: http://engagementrings.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Do_I_Need_an_Engagement_Ring

You don't *need* a ring to be engaged. I had a law professor that proposed with a new refrigerator because he knew his wife really wanted one, and didn't care for a ring. She carried a picture of it in her purse, and when people asked to see her e-ring, she took the picture out and showed them. She did end up with a wedding band though, so that wouldn't solve all your problems as it's still a ring.

Good luck!

catemeg · June 2010

If you don't want one, don't get one. Some people might give you the side eye, but their views really aren't what's most important. As I've pointed out before, most cultures don't use or like the idea of an engagement ring.

My father never wears a ring. He has super sensitive skin, so no matter what kind of metal it always leaves abrasion marks and it gets raw. My mom didn't care because she knows my dad's 100% committed to her, and doesn't need a ring to show it.

Some of his clients ask if he's divorced, but he has no problem pointing out that he just chooses to not wear a ring.

PaigeMcC · June 2010

What about some other type of jewelery like a necklace or bracelet? Something that is more "you" and that you could wear every day as a symbol. FYI you really don't NEED anything to show anyone but discuss it with BF and see what he thinks.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_other-options?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:2cf3dfdc-a39b-4f5c-b66c-960ac9510b9fPost:a1b2a8c6-4323-4c08-9a69-30752df12691">Re: Other options?</a>:
[QUOTE]The only custom I can find is some article that talks about how women used to get engagement thimbles before the e-ring was popular. Some people get tattoo rings, if the metal itself bothers them or they can't wear a ring due to work, etc. Here's an article that may be somewhat helpful: <a href="http://engagementrings.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Do_I_Need_an_Engagement_Ring" rel="nofollow">http://engagementrings.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Do_I_Need_an_Engagement_Ring</a> You don't *need* a ring to be engaged. I had a law professor that proposed with a new refrigerator because he knew his wife really wanted one, and didn't care for a ring. She carried a picture of it in her purse, and when people asked to see her e-ring, she took the picture out and showed them. She did end up with a wedding band though, so that wouldn't solve all your problems as it's still a ring. Good luck!
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Hah. That's awesome.

katanne9 · June 2010

I'm curious... why is your s/n Elin Woods?

elinwoods · June 2010

Thanks everyone. I guess when the time comes, if the time comes, I'll make up my mind then. I do like the idea of a different piece of jewelry. Something to think about for sure.

To be honest, the wedding band doesn't bother me because it could just be much more plain. So maybe I'll just skip the e ring and go for the band.

katanne9 --That's my real name. I'm not Swedish and I don't live in Florida, I promise...haha My grandmother worked at a travel agency, met a woman with the name, from Sweden, she loved it, gave it to my mother as a middle name and I got it as a first name.

Narwhal · June 2010

Is it your birthday, elin?

PandaBurr · June 2010

E-rings don't necessarily have to be "big' or "bulky'. You could go with a band that has stones set flush in it, and use it as a wedding band as well. I'm not really sure how another piece of jewelry would accomplish the same task though. I mean, is someone going to be able to tell you're engaged by seeing a necklace or a bracelet? (Please PLEASE don't get one that literally says engaged). So either way you're going to have to explain that you're engaged, right? I'm not saying you have to get a ring, I'm just curious as to why you need a symbol showing that you are engaged.

elinwoods · June 2010

I suppose I wouldn't really need a symbol. Maybe it's just silly tradition.

But I've done some searching and have found some really funky modern bands that could easily double for an e ring and a wedding ring.

Thanks for the help!

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