RSVPS due soon, still waiting on over HALF!

pinkamber · September 2012

AHHHHHHHH!!!!! So my RSVPS are due on Sunday (yes, I know it's a Sunday, but it is my fiance's birthday, so we thought it would be fun to put his birthday on there, not that most people will know that...) I have invited 157 people. Gotten responces from 77. THAT LEAVES 80!!! My question is can I put something on facebook? I was thinking something kind of sneaky like "I love checking the mailbox for RSVPS everyday! I am getting sad that the fun things like that are slowly ending" or something like that... Thoughts?

jessiflower · September 2012

I know for me personally, I wouldn't want to do that just because of the people who were NOT invited...and that might be offended that I didn't invite them...I just dont talk about the wedding hardly at all on FB...the stuff I pin on pinterest goes on there, but thats about it....just a thought...

Ali092011 · September 2012

I wouldn't put anything like that on Facebook because the people who haven't responded will either not get it, or will feel chastised. I'd just wait until a couple of days after the RSVP date and then start making calls. Maybe start trying to get ahold of people on Wednesday. If you see or talk to any of those people between now and then, I don't think it would be terrible to say something like, "Hey, so do you think you might make it to my wedding?"

Simply_Caitlin · September 2012

I sent a private facebook message to FI's nieces because they are in town and at this point, if they haven't sent the rsvp yet, they probably won't. Wer'e thinking they didn't know they had to send it and just assumed we knew they were coming. I just wrote something like "I didn't realize how close to the final head count being due I asked for the rsvp's back, yikes! If you haven't sent the card back yet no biggie, but just wanted to make sure you guys will be there!"

It's important that they come, but for people that I wouldn't be heartbroken if they said no, I'm just going to wait til after the rsvp date.

catwine · September 2012

i'm in the same boat but our deadline is Sept 28. I've been getting a few more cards each day for the past week but I'm not chassing down those who didn't send theirs back in time. the deadline is in big letters across the top of the card and it was mailed to them with plenty of time to send it back. and if they expect to show up at the reception and have a place for dinner they will be politly turned away.
harsh, i know.

mana8503 · September 2012

I texted/fb messaged a reminder about the deadline. Just a Hey - don't know if you send it yet, but the deadline for RSVPs is Saturday. Most were like OMG I totally forget, in the mail tomorrow... and then of courseI had it "maybe/ still figuring it out" responses.

KittennDave · September 2012

We're waiting on a little less than half of ours and our RSVP date is tomorrow, if I don't get them all (HAH!) before this weekend I'll have to start making calls, though I'm really irritated, there's been plenty of time and the ones I'm waiting on are all adults and most are married so it's not like they haven't done this before.... Seriously annoying that people can't just mark it and send it in. Not to mention those that couldn't follow directions about initialing for the entree </rant>

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LDubHawksFan · September 2012

NO! Don't put it on FB, because I guarantee you have more than those 150 friends on there and that's awkward. Give your guests the benefit of the doubt and wait to contact them until after. I get that half is a lot, but people procrastinate.

[Deleted User] · September 2012

I found that the people who didn't RSVP were still "unsure" so what happened is for some of them I got a tentative yes, which means, I have to get them a meal but they aren't coming! However, that is better than not RSVPing and showing up, at least I will have space and food if they do come and leftovers if they don't!

ericaandtom2012 · September 2012

Don't put anything on facebook, that's just asking for trouble.

Our RSVPs are due on Monday and we have approximately 50 cards in (91 guests) and are still waiting on 100 cards (for 185 guests). I'm starting to freak out a little bit, but I hope they pour in starting today. We've been averaging 5 each day, but at that rate we wouldn't get them all back until after the wedding.

LDubHawksFan · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_rsvps-due-soon-still-waiting-on-over-half?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:db371bc6-46c1-4058-8122-a132279805b7Post:81445661-f3c2-4c62-9c2f-878654885104">Re: RSVPS due soon, still waiting on over HALF!</a>:
[QUOTE]I found that the people who didn't RSVP were still "unsure" so what happened is for some of them I got a tentative yes, which means, I have to get them a meal but they aren't coming! However, that is better than not RSVPing and showing up, at least I will have space and food if they do come and leftovers if they don't!
Posted by stephdi7971[/QUOTE]

ha, you are too nice! I would tell them if they can't give me a definite yes, then you will catch up with them after the wedding!

pzavecz · September 2012

All I have to say is people suck...My RSVP deadline was Saturday. Still waiting on like 80 people, which is half of our guest list. I am LIVID. So I totally feel you! 2 of them are GM that said they sent theirs in when we reminded them last week...well, turns out they didn't and then FI asked today where their RSVP cards were. They said they were sending it in tomorrow. Um, yeah...way to send it in LATE! People are so lazy and rude. I'm fed up with it. I'm not going to be a very happy bride when I have to reach out to all these people in a couple of days.

pzavecz · September 2012

Oh and I would also keep it off of FB like others have said. There have been so many times where I've wanted to but I think if you do that, you're going to open yourself up to some awkward situations with people who weren't invited.

violakat03 · September 2012

I didn't post anything on FB about invitations or RSVPs (and rarely the wedding, really), at all, because I know there are people that would invite themselves in the comments. I've been sending messages to people as I catch them online. I'll start today with text messages and FB messages if I don't see them online (I prefer to ask them directly). So far I've gotten ahold of a decent number of people that forgot. The deadline was Saturday and I'm missing over half as well.

I've discovered people who aren't coming were better at sending in their RSVPs. All the ones I've contacted so far have been a yes.

srfr8908 · September 2012

Once our deadline came, we had only received about half back, so I either private messaged people on Facebook, emailed or called them and just asked if they were going to be able to make it to the wedding, that we would love to see them. It worked fairly well! We invited a little over 300 people and just have 13 people now that have not responded. :-)

fishinflagrl · September 2012

I posted it on Facebook, mine are due in 2 weeks. I know you shouldnt because it might upset others...but I invited all of our close friends and family. Others, I would hope would be respectful and understand. I did have one comment from someone I used to work with on it saying "What RSVP". I just ignored it.

I am very frustrated that over 1/2 mine are still out too. It is so easy to do, the address and stamp are already on there...check the box and put it back in envelope and mailbox.

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