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Need to stop

SharingourloveSharingourlove
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Talking and thinking about the wedding that is.  I realized last night that pretty much every conversation FI and I had was about the wedding.  I was updating him on the music as I'd talked to the pianist, talked about chairs and tables, what else we need to get, etc.

I think I'm obsessed...or maybe possessed!  LOL  Seriously I need to get my mind on other things...like our life together.  I am fully aware that the wedding is one day and I'm not stressed about anything, I think I'm just overly excited so can't stop thinking about it.  This is my first wedding and at 48 (well for 4 more day) I think I have a right to be excited.

But my poor FI, family and friends I'm sure are sick of me.  So any tips on how to shut off the "bridal brain" at least for a while, would be very much appreciated. 
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Re: Need to stop

  • SharingourloveSharingourlove
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Reading is good..and I love to read and I think I'm getting a Kindle for my birthday Monday so that would be good.  Maybe instead of killing time checking out TK, I should be looking for books I want.  Thanks for the idea! :)
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  • meganhardanmeganhardan member
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    edited December 2011

    I think it's perfectly normal to experince Bridal Brain, and I'm sure we all have at some point--so don't beat yourself up over it!   I feel like things really started hitting me at the 3 month mark, and now I'm at my all time worst with Bridal Brain!


    I find that I talk about it less if I make to do lists.  I have an excel spreadsheet that has a different tab for each month and I put to-do dates on and check them off as I go.  I used the TK one as a guide.  I like the satisfaction of checking things off, and it's less overwhelming when you break it up.

    Also, FI and I set aside time for date nights when we don't talk about the wedding, work, or anything else stressful. 

    Hope that helps and hang in there!  For me coming here helps too, since we can all talk about our weddings to each other!

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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
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    edited December 2011

    go on dates with nothing to do with anything wedding. no shopping  or anything because that will remind you of things.. movies are great since you don't talk! and camping, since we're STARTING to warm up a little.. I fell ya! My poor FI is such a trooper that he puts up with all of our planning talks

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  • nannynotesnannynotes
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    edited December 2011

    Now that you are aware of it you will probably be able to stop yourself and change the subject. Instead of you doing the talking, ask your family about them and what has them excited currently.
    I walk greenlake every weekend with my friend and for the first few weekends after the engagement  I was doing all the talking and it was all wedding related. One day I realized she was not interested and she seemed down, turns out she had a horrible work week and needed to vent. I felt selfish because I realized our conversations were all about me and not at all about her.
    Now I always ask her about her week right away and let her talk, then she asks about my week and the conversations are a lot more interactive and enjoyable. I only bring up wedding stuff if she asks.

    Anniversary
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