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Aunt's wedding dress?

I was always very close with my aunt, she was like a second mom to me. However, last year around this time she passed away from breast cancer. I had always loved her wedding dress and am now considering wearing it. This style is very classic and it fits like a glove. My conern is that it might be weird to wear it because it is not my mom's (as the tradition goes) and because she is no longer living. Any thoughts on this?

Re: Aunt's wedding dress?

  • I don't see an issue with it.
    If you like the dress and it fits then go for it.
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  • I'm just going to say that if the tradition means a lot to you...go with it, but if it doesn't mean that much, I would really consider wearing the dress.

    To me, it sounds like wearing the dress has a lot more meaning and sentimental value than a tradition would hold. So what if it isn't your mom's wedding dress.

    I'm not wearing my mom's dress. She didn't keep hers, but that's not the point. I'm also not doing a lot of traditional things (apparently), again, not the point.

    The point is, it's your wedding. If she was a second mom to you, consider it more. If she has a daughter, you might want to discuss it with them first, if you haven't already. 

    I say, go for it, it has more meaning to you than traditions. Go for it.
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  • Thanks ladies for your thoughts on this! I think I just needed some reassurance. She didn't have any children so that won't be an issue, and my mom's dress wasn't even a "real" wedding dress so now that I think about it, that tradition really isn't an option. Thanks again!
  • PeavyPeavy member
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    If you like it, wear it!  It doesn't matter that it was your aunt's, not your mom's.  I think it's a lovely way to honor her.
  • If you love the dress maybe ask your mom how she will feel about it? It it really isnt important to you what others think do what you want.

    Another idea to keep her with you on your big day is maybe if you do get a different dress have something sewn into the tool of the dress that is just for you and a few other people to know about before the wedding, then maybe if you want to say something about remembering you aunt on the day of your wedding you can show what was swen in there. Im sure a lot of family would like this idea that you are remembering her on your day.
  •  The way you said "it fits like a glove" sounds like it was meant to be! I think your Aunt would be so honored to have you wear her dress! And if you want to do something for your mother, wear a piece of her jewelery on your wedding day, for some reason moms like it when you wear their jewelery especially on your wedding day! Good Luck!
    ~Soon to become Mrs. O'Kane!~
  • aragx6aragx6 member
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    I would definitely wear it. That sounds like a lovely way to honor her memory.
    Lizzie
  • kipnuskipnus member
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    Do it. I would never wear my mom's wedding dress just because it's from the 80s and is really not my style! She knows that, and never expected it. I think your aunt's dress sounds lovely.
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