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Wedding Woes

Really uninvolved Fiance: Normal??

My Fiance doesn't really want a wedding, but I do, and we've compromised on an extremely small, inimate ceremony and reception with closest family only. We're talking like 20-25 guests here, folks. Super small, and done our way- no first dance (we don't dance), no garter toss (that's just weird), etc. Its our wedding, right? Whatever we want goes!

Except that Mr. FI doesn't want a thing to do with the planning, and if I try to talk over plans with him he gets really frustrated and pissy. I'm basically supposed to plan the whole thing with our moms and my friends, because he "doesn't even want it anyway, but I know you do, so do whatever". Its starting to really bug me because this is supposed to be such a happy, light-filled day and I don't want him to be miserable. I'm trying to do everything with him in mind, but I'd like an opinion or two now and then.

Am I being a diva about this? Is it normal for the guy to not care about the details? My parents eloped (which we considered, but ultimately I'd feel like I missed something special without my family there and we'd have a reception anyway, which he STILL wouldn't want!!) so they're no help.

Re: Really uninvolved Fiance: Normal??

  • InksWellInksWell member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Does he want to be married?

    If yes, then what does he have against parties? is it the dancing?
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    My H was the "just tell me when and where to show up" type, but he was always at least willing to talk about the wedding with me. Are you sure he wants to get married?
  • edited December 2011

    Yeah, we had a big talk about it last night and he finally let me know that all the details make him nervous and that he'd just rather me decide most of it. He's definitely not into the party aspect of it, but that's because neither of us have huge social lives anyway- we're not party people. We're at-home-with-books-and-maybe-someone-else people. He's also a very private person, and if it were up to him we'd just elope right now. So I can see why he's not into it.

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