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January 2013 Weddings

rant to no one

I know that we're all married now, but I need to put this out there somewhere, and I can't do it on FB or Twitter because DH will see it and it will make him feel bad.

DH is sick today, he's been sick all weekend. He's called in sick this morning. I'm a contract employee and don't have sick days and could not take the time off to go take him to the doctor, or to stock the apartment since we've been house-sitting for his parents for the last week and have no food. I took the car to work this morning, but told him he should make an appointment with the doctor and call his mom to see if she could take him to the doctors. (that was my first mistake). So now, my 23-year-old husband is at home being coddled by his mother because he's too much of a baby to take care of himself when he's sick and I couldn't take off to take care of him. I am angry at his mother for suggesting it in the first place and for bribing him with soup instead of taking him to the doctor, and then to the store to get food and taking him home where he belongs. I'm also angry because it appears as though she paid his co-pay for the appointment and I just want to scream.

I know it's probably silly and overreacting, but I feel like DH is with an ex-girlfriend instead of his mother and it is driving me up the wall. I just wanna scream.

So now I have to go even further out of my way tonight to pick him up from his mothers because I'm tired of her doing things for him like he's still 12. He can drive himself or I can pick him up. Either way he shouldn't be there in the first place, but since aparently, his 23-year-old self is incapable of making a can of soup, I'm stuck hating his mother and driving out to her house to pick him up after I get out of choir practice tonight.


I'm just whining at this point, but I'm angry at her and at him and I'm just beat.

Re: rant to no one

  • :( I know you've had a lot of problems with her in the past too. And I totally understand why you are upset. I would talk to him about it once he is feeling better. Explain why you are feeling that way. I mean its one thing for him to go over there if he has got a bad flu and is physically unable to take care of himself, its another to be there just because he doesn't feel like taking care of himself.

    Hopefully he gets better soon and you can put this behind you!

     

  • Yeah,

    I got to feeling better about it last night, but then this morning she texts me and is trying to once again do everything for us, and for me and it made me so mad I made him answer her because I couldn't do it nicely, only come to find out he tells her that we're going over there for dinner tonight because once again I'm apparently incapable of caring for my own husband. When I told him I'd drop him off and go do my own thing, he got offended that I "Couldn't even stand to be around her."

    I'm just feeling like he doesn't want our own life. I'm tired of not spending time in the aparmtent we're paying rent on. I just feel like crying. Again.
  • I really don't think that he is trying to understand your point of view on this right now. Hopefully once things calm down you can try to talk to him and you guys can set some boundaries together. I know that we always have a talk about when we are spending a significant amount of time with parents. It makes things easier on both of us. Good luck. I'm around if you need to vent some more!

     

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