What would you do?

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• MikeF&SarahC member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  IT really depnds upon what is more important to you...Do want to share your day with your family or do want it to be just the 2 of you and some wintesses?  It's up to the two of you to decide what you want a couple...Good luck!

  

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• Misheyld member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  You sound exactly like I did!!  My parents gave us money and my mom really wanted us to elope.  But he is Irish/Italian and his family wouldn't have it.   So we are doing the big wedding.  I didn't argue for a few reasons; 
  - It's his vision too and he loves to throw a good party.
  - I realized that I wanted a lot of friends and family around to celebrate.
  - it's a memory but it's also an experience for us and our family and yes it's going to be a memory, but I also want it to be memorable. 
  
  
  
  
  

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• UniqueNuptial member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_massachusetts-boston_would-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:89Discussion:e31611ef-b994-4303-a8e1-1346b21f4643Post:b05eac59-9a84-4851-a1ad-25fd3bfac06f">What would you do?</a>:
  [QUOTE]My wedding date is May 18, 2013.  We have booked the venue and signed the contract.  Although we may get married sooner.   My parents offered us money instead of paying for a wedding and we would "elope and have a small party"  I want to take the money but my fi wants the big wedding.  We have until Jan 1, 2012 to make a decision but I feel like we are at a stale mate.  I would much rather the money go to us instead of our venue.  The wedding is a very expensive "memory"
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  <div>Sounds like you know what you want but your fi wants the "big wedding".  Here's my take on the stalemate:  you should do the wedding and maybe find a way to save some money on it. </div><div>
  </div><div>Why?  Well, if you spend that money on a wedding there is a chance you can earn the money back later on (being stingy, new job, more hours, etc.)</div><div>
  </div><div>If you keep the money, well, you can never recreate those memories.</div><div>
  </div><div>So, money can be replaced but experiences from a wedding can't.  I agree on having a wedding.  :-)</div>

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• CapeMJA84 member

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  The money will get spent regardless.  If you elope, it's gone on the trip and your exchanging your wish of memories for his.  Scale back the big wedding by inviting fewer guests, not having favors, doing your own centerpieces and choosing a location that will be flexible - then go on an amazing honeymoon that feels like what you wanted to elope to.  

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• CherandAl

  

  November 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with CapeMJA84. If you skip having the big wedding, you'll regret in the future. You can really never stack up the "things" you get for yourselves with the money against the memory of that day and all the pictures and everything that it entails. It may be a really expensive memory but once the money has been paid and the day is over- you won't regret having done it the way you did.

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