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second guessing my dress..

Nikitess84Nikitess84 member
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Hi girls,

I just need somewhere to vent and talk it through.  I went to MB bride and found a dress I loved except for the neckline which they said they could make it into a sweetheart neckline which I wanted.  I then went to bridal beginnings where i ended up purchasing my dress!  I loved everything about the dress I purchased but I can't stop thinking about the first one and that I may have made the wrong decision.  My family gave me advice and said that if I had purchased the first one and had changed the neckline, what would of happened if I didn't like it which is a possibility.  I really loved the first dress too and feel like I may even have liked certain aspects of it bette.! Both dresses are different in respect to their silhouette, one slim a line and one a dropped waist.  I just want to know I chose the right one!  Has anyone gone through this?  I feel like I should not be second guessing this.

Thanks,
Nicole

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Re: second guessing my dress..

  • MrsDydekMrsDydek member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, I went through this, it is perfectly normal. Between TV and Magazines there is so much hype put on THE dress that it has went from finding a dress that you love, to finding a dress that you love more than anything else. 
    Just remember, you bought a dress that you love. You bought a dress that you want to get married in. If you had forever to look and unlimited funds, you would probably find a million dresses that you really love and want to be the dress. But you don't, no one does, time and money limit us to certain dresses. That shouldn't cause a girl to settle for a dress, but that does mean that you shouldn't second guess your self because the fact is, yes, there is always another dress. 
    Do you love this dress? you already said you did, and you already made the decision so yes you chose the right one. The wedding dress is important, it should be something that you completely love. It does not have to be a dress that you love more than any other dress out there. Once you get this new way of thinking in your head, you will start dreaming about this dress and completely forget about the other one. 
    Take a friend who hasn't seen the dress yet with you to go try it on again. Remember how you feel when you put it on. You will feel beautiful, you will feel like a bride, and you will realize that you love that dress. Your wedding dress should not be something that you feel uncomfortable in, it should not be something that you don't feel beautiful in. That is all we need to keep in mind when we search for THE dress. 
    I will say it again: THE dress is not the dress you love more than any other (because such a dress will never exist) but the dress that you feel beautiful in, the dress that you love. 

    I guess (and I promise this post will end once I'm done saying this one little thing) I always think of it like this: Have you ever had those days when an outfit just doesn't seem to fit quite right, or when your hair doesn't seem to want to do what you want it to do, or when you screw up your makeup and have to start over, or when your eyeliner seems to never be even. You know, those days when your forced to leave the house not feeling like you look all that spectacular but figure you look "good enough". That is how you should not feel on your wedding day. When I put on my wedding dress I know I will not say, "well I look good enough" I will say that feel beautiful. Even though I only went to two dress shops. Even though there was that other really great dress that wasn't as poofy. Even though that was that gorgeous all lace gown in the window of that one bridal store that even my fiance said looked really great (who is horribly picky). Even though there are probably a thousand other dress that would feel beautiful in on my wedding day, the point is I feel beautiful on my wedding day. 

    Sorry I guess that was a very long "little thing" but I hope this at least helped you to feel better about your decision.

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  • Nikitess84Nikitess84 member
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    edited December 2011

    Thank you soooo much for your words. I feel so much better and you are right that if I took the time I would find a million dresses I love.  You really put things into perspective.


    Thanks again,

    Nicole

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  • MrsDydekMrsDydek member
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    edited December 2011
    No problem, I'm so glad I could help! Smile
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  • rlawson24rlawson24 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that every bride has gone through this same situation, and if they haven't just know that at least 2 of them have (you and I).  I have been having second thoughts as you were.  I chose the first dress that I fell in love with even thought there was another one that tickled my fancy also.  Finding a wedding dress is like finding that perfect guy.  there are many out there and some of them even look better than others, but not all of them make you feel as special as the one. 

    This was how I decided to forget that other dress which I did not purchase and realized that I made the RIGHT choice.  Believe me, you family, friends, and soon to be husband will agree that you will be the most beautiful bride on your special day no matter which dress you are wearing.  Your love for him will shine throught any material and will illuminate the atmospher. 

    Remember the dress doesn't make the bride, the bride makes the dress.

    Good luck with you other planning and preparing for your BIG Day
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