Hi ladies,
Im new to posting though I have been scouting out planning posts for a few months and would like to say THANKS for sharing all of your info!! It has been SO helpful so far. Also, Jen (akawinterbride) sent me some PM info that was so great! I have little spurts of time here and there to plan our special day as we have a 6 month old babe (during some naps when Im not napping and occassional late nights..!) I do have a few pressing dilemma's I would like some advice for!
We will be married on our 13 year anniversary next march. yay! Im sure you can imagine all the questions we have been getting for years about the big day...especially following our engagement last year! ( which i was 5 months pregnant at the time so the answer was always simple...we'll get married..when the time is right for us)
The problem at the moment is that we have a fairly large core group of friends who have all had large weddings at home, as well, I have been in 4 gf's wedding parties...and to their baby showers...and their childrens birthdays..etc...
Everyone has known that we would be getting married away and that was that. Now that we have set a date...I am getting bombarded with questions!! More so...automatic "when can we book?" , "we are so excited to go to maui", "we wouldn't miss it for anything.." Which is awesome but not awesome when we do not want a large wedding!!
I am in the process of making a webpage (thanks to all the good idea's on here!) that will be our informal formal invite as well. We have decided to have a weekend of camping at a ranch next summer to celebrate with all of our friends. We are undecided about whether or not to extend the invite for maui to everyone thinking many will not be able to come (we live in Canada and several have young children) or to seperate the close ones out of the group to ensure numbers dont get too out of hand! ..when a few commit..then...all want to try and make it...which includes their families/children as well!!
The problem with the website is that once you send it out..the info is out for all to see!
Do we just send it out to just family and closer friends? If so, how do we tell everyone else about the ranch celebration?
Do we put who is invited on the guest list to Maui for everyone to see?
Also, we plan to put a reply deadline to allow us to choose a venue that will suite our numbers and budget. Is two weeks reasonable? Should we send it out to family only first..then get a general number count, then close friends, then all friends who are invited to ranch weekend?
This is all just getting too complicated for a simple wedding!!! sheesh!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
thanks in advance for listening to my rant!
M