Fi's sister told me yesterday she and her boyfriend had picked out and ordered an engagement ring- obviously signifying an impending engagement. After a little prodding she told me that they will officially be engaged once the ring comes in and he proposes etc. Wonderful right?
After a little prodding I come to find out that she already booked the venue. In Florida. April 14th 2012. So, ok, that's less than 6 months after our wedding- fine, no problem- our finances will be further stressed but no problem. EXCEPT... FI is using his vacation time for our wedding AND his BMan's wedding in September. Because he works for a corporate company he runs on a fiscal year for things like vacations. Well, his isn't over until the end of April which means he doesn't have any vacation time left and he can't take vacation until the very end of April next year. He works for a restaurant, so he works every weekend and his days off are during the week.
Well, after talking to him about everything last night I sent a message letting her know I don't think we are going to be able to make it because he doesn't have any vacation time left, taking time off paid is not an option, etc.
Well, instead of calling me she calls FI, screaming and yelling, CRYING and telling him how hurt she is and that if he can't bother going to her wedding then why should she bother coming to ours. Now, I realize she was emotional and didn't really mean that, she really is a nice girl and I genuinely like her. But seriously???? You plan an out of town wedding with less than a year's notice and you don't discuss your immediate family's availability before booking a venue? Oh, and then his MOTHER called him and was like, uh oh, what did you do to your sister.
I'm just really frustrated by the whole thing and shocked by what a child she is acting like. It's not like we don't want to be there or aren't willing to pay to get there, it's a genuine work issue. FI and I are NOT taking time away from our honeymoon- no way no how. But now he is trying to figure out how he can only take a day for the other wedding he is in and try to juggle that so he can be there at her wedding. *Side note* his company does not allow you to break up vacation weeks into individual days*. He had to get special permission to do this for his friend's wedding and ours.
I was going to call her and try to smooth things over but FI says to let her be. He isn't surprised at all by her behavior, but again, I'm a bit shocked. If she cares that much then she can try to change the date right? Nobody but us and her mother even knows about it yet.
So frustrating!!!