Is it wrong of me...?

Re: Is it wrong of me...?

• agu101 member

  

  January 2013

  Please don't do this.  Most people know better than to wear white to a wedding.  If someone shows up to your wedding wearing white, just go with with b/c there is nothing you can do about it.  You're the one wearing the beautiful dress and everyone knows it's your day.  

  

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• nmsterni914 member

  

  January 2013

  Now see the reason why I do want to make it known is that not everyone does know this 'guideline' or rule... whatever it is you want to call it.  While my friend was coming out of the church after the ceremony, the spotlight wasnt on her, it was on the woman who obviously didnt know she shouldnt have worn that dress.  It was the talk of the wedding and it upset me that someone would have to nerve to do that on one of the most important days of this girls life.  I also dont want someone on my side (or my fiances) to be 'that person' at the wedding.

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• jcg98 member

  

  January 2013

  Don't do it.  If someone is going to wear white/ivory/whatever, they are probably going to do it regardless of whatever request you make.  And you will just end up pissing off a bunch of people who know better.  Worse yet someone might wear white just to spite you.  It's never a good idea to tell adults how they should dress.  

   
    
  

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• njdoxie member

  

  January 2013

  Don't do it.   It will seem weird, and then the talk will be, "Can you believe nmstern914 actually told us all not to wear white?!"  You'll look petty and spoiled, like God forbid the spotlight isn't 100% on you.  

  
  

  I know that's not your motivation, but that's how it will appear.  Most people know not to wear white, and if someone does - who cares?  Nobody is going to mistake the other woman in white for the bride.  

  
  

  You could just tell the story of the woman in white who was the talk of the wedding you went to with everyone you know, that way they'll get the message without you ever having to tell them directly.

  
  

  
  

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• spudshirley member

  

  January 2013

  I agree with what others have said.  People should be well aware of the fact that it's proper etiquette not to wear white (or ivory!) to a wedding.  If they do end up wearing it, oh well, but realize that the person wearing white will probably feel very embarassed that other people notice and will be talking about it. 
  

  
  

  Bottom line, you really shouldn't have to tell people, I don't plan on doing so

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• HobokensFury member

  

  January 2013

  DItto PP. You can't tell people what to wear to your wedding. Most women have enough common sense to not wear white.

   
   

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• SewInLoveWithDMB member

  

  January 2013

  I wouldn't say anything. 

  
  

  Also, is it really the end of the world if someone wears white?  I would never do it, and I think that most other people know not to do it, but really, what's the big deal? Everyone will know that the bride is the bride, so it really shouldn't become an issue.

  
  

  I actually come from a background where wearing all black to a wedding is far more offensive than wearing white...

  
  
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