Feeling the Pressure

rlsmith15 · March 2012

Okay I need some help. I am 89 days from my wedding day. YAY! But I am feeling the pressure of everything. I need to get my invites out and I am having trouble picking either a black folder or white folder to put all my invites pieces in. Do I put a design on the outside of the folder. Am I forgetting to plan for something like a Grooms Cake? How important is that? I don't feel like I am very organized at all and normally i am the most organized person in the world. I feel like I am going to forget so many things and not plan for it. I need some help. How do I get organized? How do I stay on top with all the wedding plans and have a 50 hour work week? How do I choose the right folder for me? HELP

fjw2012 · March 2012

I think everyone does this at some point. If you're really concerned go back and try it on again. If it hasn't been that long and you really don't like it they may let you apply the deposit to a different dress. Most likely though you are just second guessing yourself becuase it is quite possibly the most important article of clothing you will ever wear. I was a little nervous before my dress came in, but once I put it on again I fell in love all over.

solemnlyswear · March 2012

Just remember when you picked out that dress there was something you saw and/or felt when you were wearing it that made you decide it was THE dress. Try it on again take a picture of yourself wearing it maybe, just don't let FI see. As long as you feel beautiful you have nothing to worry about.

becka717 · March 2012

Go back and try it on again. It will remind you why you loved it so much. Have some pictures taken if you can. It is fairly common to second guess your decision. Then, do not look at any other dresses! It will only make you second guess yourself more. Look at the picture of you in your dress and remember the great feelings you had putting it on.

EastSideBlonde · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_plus-sized_i-found-my-wedding-dressdidnt-i?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:973cdc6f-961e-4fb0-a628-bef2bb559697Discussion:c991e8c1-6a99-4ba2-9d94-102bfed7e7f4Post:895a53e0-df47-4b00-9291-6ca0b9cae4d5">Re: I found my wedding dress....Didn't I?</a>:
[QUOTE]I can't offer you any advice... I did the same thing. I bought my dress... and within days I was second guessing. My dress magically arrived TWO weeks after I ordered it... and when I got the call that it was in and I would need to go pay the other 50% and pick it up... I panicked. Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

WOW mine came crazy fast too! I ordered it from AA on 3/3 and i got a call on Monday 3/19 telling me it is in, I have 2 weeks to pick it up and pay for it - at first i said ok, then i called back and asked if there was any cost to waiting till June like they originally told me since there wasn't i asked them to send it back - the more i think about the more angry i got--- My wedding is not until October and they insisted i needed to order in early march :( trying to lose weight and would prefer not to have major alterations...

and yes i still doubt if it is the right one for me - not as much bling or the look i had in my head and no tears... but i fell so happy, pretty, natural and it was soft (felt nice all over when it was on)

did you have any pics to share? why dont you think it is the one?

entropicbeauty · March 2012

I second guessed the dress that I put a deposit down on as well. I told them when I put the deposit down that I might change my mind, so they took it as a deposit for "a dress" not just the one I had in mind at the time.

I'm really happy I waited for the new 2012 dresses to come out, I went back and found the perfect dress from the new collection and the deposit I'd already put down went towards that. They actually put the order in for the dress when I confirmed and put a little more of a deposit down.

Nothing wrong with second guessing yourself, but even after I really did find "my" dress I was having doubts about whether it really was "the one" until I looked it up on the web site, and seeing it properly fitted on the model made me feel so much better (I'm going to have to get it pretty drastically altered. I had to buy the dress to accommodate my hips and my upper body is significantly smaller so when I tried on the sample they had to clip the top and it didn't look perfect).

My suggestion is, if you really did like the dress, stop looking and just be confident in your choice. You WILL look good in it once it is properly fitted to your body.

QueerFemme · March 2012

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[QUOTE]not as much bling or the look i had in my head and no tears... but i fell so happy, pretty, natural and it was soft (felt nice all over when it was on) did you have any pics to share? why dont you think it is the one?
Posted by EastSideBlonde[/QUOTE]

The lack of bling is <strong><u>exactly</u></strong> why I keep second/third/fourth guessing my choice. I expected to have something princessy and BLINGY. I expected sparkle EVERYWHERE. What I got was an elegant, somewhat "simple" chiffon dress. (Chiffon was not even on my radar). I keep looking at it, and the only part of the dress I still love is the bling around the corset. the bottom portion of the dress seems so plain.

here is a link to my dress: (I didn't buy it here... they just have good pictures) <a href="http://www.houseofbrides.com/julietta-by-mori-lee-wedding-dress-style-3106-p-3-205-67282.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://www.houseofbrides.com/julietta-by-mori-lee-wedding-dress-style-3106-p-3-205-67282.aspx</a>

here is a picture of me in the dress (sorry for the crummy quality.. for some reason, I can't rotate it on my computer). this sample dress was one size off... so, the rouching around the belly actually goes down a little further... and the corset was tied as tight as it could go... so, my actual dress sucks my belly in a little further... and pulls the bodice back some (I'm still going to have to get alterations... I had to buy the dress bigger to accomodate my cup size, but need to have it altered smaller around the waist).

<a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/5/5/558346da-a0bd-4902-a53a-910ed4601e24.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/5/5/558346da-a0bd-4902-a53a-910ed4601e24.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>

EastSideBlonde · March 2012

You look amazing even in the wrong size!
the rouching is so flattering - I almost got a dress with it too!
I did end up getting my Gown in white diamond - the sample i tried was just white - so the skirt on my official gown will sparkle i just have not see it on me yet

I know it is just more and more money but one of the shops i went to offered to add more crystals for that bling i thought i was missing - you can always ask and see if it is in budget

Elizabeth80 · March 2012

Not to deter you but I second guessed my first dress and I'm glad I did because I went back with a gf who did not have an opinion and I bought exactly what I wanted. I didn't cry but I looove how I look in it.

I think the first round I picked a dress I had dreamed of wanting and my MOH who went with me approved so I went with it. After looking at pictures of me in it I did not like how my chest looked in it. The bodice pushed it up instead of forming to my body. So I went back and after looking though 3 dresses we found one that fits perfect, hugs my curves and doesn't push the girls up further then they normally are.

I would look over your pictures and be sure that the dress works for you in an emotional sense and practial sense. Do you feel beautiful in it? Will you be comfortable in it for your big day?

It will work out and I'm sure you'll look gorgeous on your big day!

QueerFemme · March 2012

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[QUOTE]
I know it is just more and more money but one of the shops i went to offered to add more crystals for that bling i thought i was missing - you can always ask and see if it is in budget :) Posted by EastSideBlonde[/QUOTE]

I actually thought of that. I even sent a link to a seamstress to the dress... everyone I'm talking to is saying that because of the chiffon... it would be VERY hard to add additional bling. I talked to the bridal store to see if I could get more of those little blingy appliques to add around the dress.. and they said that Mori Lee won't do that... when I go get my alterations done... II'm going to see if there is anything they can do... but, so far, everyone is telling me nope. Probably not. :( Now, I have an $1100.00 dress that I think is very pretty... and very elegant... and fits me very well. But, I don't squeel when I see it.

I will say... I tried on a few dresses with a TON of bling... and they all were TOOO MUCH. So, maybe I love the bling in my mind.. but not actually on me.

EastSideBlonde · March 2012

you can so add it... it is all about cost - they manufacture wont but i know at the shop i went to they were going to do it in house after and i was not aloud to say so shhhh they were swarovski crystals that could be glued on some how

Other idea is to spray yourself with body glitter

QueerFemme · March 2012

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[QUOTE]you can so add it... it is all about cost - they manufacture wont but i know at the shop i went to they were going to do it in house after and i was not aloud to say so shhhh they were swarovski crystals that could be glued on some how :) Other idea is to spray yourself with body glitter :D
Posted by EastSideBlonde[/QUOTE]

I'm going to try a few different seamstresses and see what they say. I'm not even sure WHERE I would add it or what I would actually add. The detail that is there already is more of an applique ... so, if they added more on the bottom of the dress... the additional detail wouldn't match the appliques... so, i have to be careful about adding stuff that looks like it was stuck on there. I'll see how it turns out. I'm also going to get fabulous accessories. I am thinking of having my blingy shoes died to match my BM's dresses (a wine/sangria color), which will help show off the bling on the shoes... and I'm also thinking of going with this:

<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Jewelry-Rhinestone-Bridal-Earrings/dp/B004RB5PEO/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC?ie=UTF8&coliid=I1L0IYM2H5P0IX&colid=1WXRBUGYQAVG3" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Jewelry-Rhinestone-Bridal-Earrings/dp/B004RB5PEO/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC?ie=UTF8&coliid=I1L0IYM2H5P0IX&colid=1WXRBUGYQAVG3</a>

or this:

<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Rhinestone-Floral-Jewelry-Necklace-Earrings/dp/B006CQA5WE/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC?ie=UTF8&coliid=I2A6PUQ5C13YHQ&colid=1WXRBUGYQAVG3" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/Rhinestone-Floral-Jewelry-Necklace-Earrings/dp/B006CQA5WE/ref=wl_it_dp_o_pC?ie=UTF8&coliid=I2A6PUQ5C13YHQ&colid=1WXRBUGYQAVG3</a>

for my accessories.

Hopefully, that will help BLING me out.

I am still totally thinking of buying a reception dress...

like THIS:

<a href="http://www.newyorkdress.com/Mori_Lee/91085.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.newyorkdress.com/Mori_Lee/91085.html</a>

I'm insane. It's official

katehar01 · March 2012

I'd say go back in person and try it on before you make any decisions. I had pics taken, and when I look at the pics I feel like it doesn't do it justice....so it makes me a little nervous. But I just have to remember the feeling I had and trust it (I tried on over 50 dresses and the one I picked was the only one that made me feel like a bride). If you try it again and love it, then you have to trust it's the right one!

You made a really good point, too, about accessories. I ended up choosing a much "blingier" dress than I thought I would, and I'm realizing how simple my accessories will have to be! A "plainer" dress will give you more freedom to play around with fun accesories.

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