Honoring a Family Member That Has Passed Away

lckelly · January 2012

I'm getting married in June and I'd like to do something in my ceremony that will honor my dad who is no longer with us. My mom and I thought of doing a balloon release with the wedding party while playing a song for him but my guests might not see it since we are doing the ceremony under a covered pavilion. I'm having a hard time thinking of anything else that would be appropriate but not bring down the celebration of the day. Any suggestions or ideas are much appreciated!

pretzelgrrl · January 2012

I'm sorry for your loss...maybe one of your ceremony songs can be one of his favorite songs and have it in the program that it is in honor of him...also, we had the pastor mention the names of family members who could not be there and had a brief moment of silence

sweetredhead · January 2012

We had small 5x3 I think pictures of my grandparents who passed away on a table. I liked it because it was a subtle way to include them but keep the focus on the wedding taking place.

hmacsine · January 2012

I think the balloon release and a song will ruin the mood. My dad passed too. My mom brought me a charm to put on my bouquet. I'm also having a memorial candle. You could also leave a seat open for him.

AurorasEnvy · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I think the balloon release and a song will ruin the mood. My dad passed too. My mom brought me a charm to put on my bouquet. I'm also having a memorial candle. You could also leave a seat open for him.
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</div><div>Sorry to hear.</div><div>These are good ideas, and I agree with PPs in that I think whatever you do should be subtle as to not take away from the mood of the day. I'm also having a section in our program for family members who have passed away.

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skippylouwho · January 2012

DSIL's father died a few years ago. In the program for DD and DSIL's wedding, they listed his mother and father as his parents (just as we were listed as our DD's parents). By his father's name they had a small superscript cross printed.

Wedding ceremoney of

xxxx

daughter of
xxx and xxx

and

xxxx

son of

xxx and xxx +

It was simple yet included his dad in the program. It didn't diminish the mood. His dad would not have wanted them to do anything to take away from the pure joy of the day.

RebeccaB88 · January 2012

We're not doing anything outright for my dad. We've already had the funeral, and we want to focus on the joy of the day, and knowing that he's there with us in spirit. I will probably carry something small of his down the aisle, or wear something of his, and I'm thinking about serving his signature cocktail as our signature drink at the reception. Just little things that have a touch of him here and there to remind me.

kursha13 · January 2012

we are having a memorial take by the guest book of.our.grandparents in frames on their wedding days just so we can have them.there and a candle in the midsle

harpsdesire · January 2012

I think a balloon release is a little much, but do what will make you happy (Not something that's going to make you cry though!)

My sister had one pink rose in her bouquet to represent our young cousin who passed away, and used our grandmother's wedding bible in a reading to honor her and our grandfather.

mrskgaslin · January 2012

a friend of mine recently married, whose father is no longer with us. just before the ceremony began, they had the church bells rung in his honor and this was noted to the guests in the wedding programs. a very nice, touching senitiment that was not maudlin or overboard.

kennazebrowsky · January 2012

We are making a small slide show ( my mom passed when I was a kid ) of people we lost. Got a small digital frame to play it on, going to have a few candles and some flower petals spread on a small table to display it.

Tandra&Devin · January 2012

My FI and I have lost a few dear friends and family, so we decided to have a memorial table at the reception. Nice framed pictures with a votive and a long-stemmed rose. I'm thinking I'd like to include a piece in the program, but I haven't decided yet.

jeffsgirl100612 · January 2012

I am struggling with this part, both of us have lost our parents. I want to do something that wont make me cry (too hard) but also have them be part of the wedding. I've already decided my colors are going to be black and yellow, because my mom's favorite flowers are yellow roses (dad's were red roses) my boquet will be white roses with one red and one yellow with their pictures incorporated in it somehow, and we are getting married on the riverfront of my hometown near the bridge that my dad helped build. I want to do a candle for them, or something.. I really dont know where to start tho. I want to honor them but not make it sad or relive the funerals. Help!

Sydney91 · January 2012

I'm leaving a seat for a long-time family friend that passed away a few years ago. I'm putting a flower on the chair (either her favourite or one from my bouquet if I'm allergic to her favourite) and a card with her name on it along with her birth date and death date. It will be off to the side at both the ceremony and reception so her husband and two sons (18 and 23) won't be having her loss shoved in their faces.

MamasFallenAngel · January 2012

I've been thinking about this too. My brother, Jerick, died, he was just a child but he was so much a part of me that i wanted some part of him there. My youngest brother, Jacob (who will be 9 at the time of the wedding and who will be a groomsmen) is carrying Jerick's stuffed sheep down the aisle with him and holding it through the ceremony. Jerick would've been in the ceremony too if he were with us, but since he isn't I wanted to incorporate him. My FI is perfectly supportive of this.

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