NWR: Vent (and another vent)

KrisKenny · January 2012

So, most people on this board knows that we have 3 of FI's kids every other weekend and on Wednesdays, right.

This past Wednesday I was only home for a few minutes when the kids were over so I didn't notice anything (and we only have them for a few hours in the evening).

Well, last night them come over. Within 2 hours, I know that I have to check FI's son's head for lice as he's been scratching like crazy. WTF!!!! His head was covered with them. I asked how long he's been scratching and he said for like a week!

He was only at my house for less than 2 hours and I knew. How the f*ck could he go a week without his mother noticing???? Umm, neglect your kids much?

Needless to say, from 8 until 11:30pm I was cleaning this poor child's head. He was so exhausted, he even fell asleep for a few while sitting on the chair. I can't believe she didn't notice and would send them over my house like this!

Ok, vent over. Thanks for listening. I know I can vent on here, especially since this isn't something to post of FB, although I would like to post how much of a stupid, no-good mother she is (but I won't).

Zimsgirl · January 2012

Omg that's crazy. Does she usually act like that? Like miss things and whatnot

jaime10285 · January 2012

That sucks. Does he go to school? I'm surprised a school wouldn't notice either. Kids get lice pretty often and it has nothing to do with cleanliness or care but she should have noticed the itching.

KrisKenny · January 2012

Sad to say, she's like this very often.
He's gotten them 3 times since school has started in September. The first 2 times, is aunt cleaned his head, not his mom. And this time I did it.
I told him he needs to go to his school nurse and say something. If he doesn't, I don't care, I'm calling the school. Parent or not, the school needs to know. Someone in his class has to have them.

CvilleClaire · January 2012

Wow...three times in a few months? Perhaps there's another child in the class whose mother is equally clueless? The little buggers might be getting passed around by someone else!

KrisKenny · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Wow...three times in a few months? Perhaps there's another child in the class whose mother is equally clueless? The little buggers might be getting passed around by someone else!
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

That is exactly what I am thinking. Each time his head gets clean and when he comes over, I double check.
I think I'm going to be checking his head a lot more often. If he had said something a week ago, it wouldn't of taken so long to clean his head. I told him to call me up and I'll check his head at any time and clean it if needed.

We were just lucky we caught it before the other 2 were infested with them as well. His sister had a few nits so I pulled them out and did the shampoo and treatment to her head as well. The last time, all 3 of them needed treatments because she waited so long to clean the first one's head. Really, come on now.

squarepeg72 · January 2012

She also need to wash EVERY thing on thier beds and vaccum. Even when you get them off thier heads they can still live in pillows and stuffed animals ... EWWWW ... It is hard to believe she did not notice

KrisKenny · January 2012

Oh yes. She "knows" this, as well as the kids. If they get home and it's not done, they know enough to do it. I even have a can of the spray to send home so it can be used on the mattresses and things that cannot be washed!

Thanks again for letting me vent on here. I actually does help a lot.

Carebear62584 · January 2012

You definitely need to call the school nurse and tell her! Kids should not be in school until they are free of it. It spreads like wildfire through classrooms. I was working part time in a classroom once where it was going around, the kids all had to be checked and from there on out they had to put their coats, hats, scarves, etc. inside their backpacks instead of on the hook. I even got myself checked because of course I was worried after that.

Liss1485 · January 2012

I hate that their mom was that oblivious to it! That is terrible!! Good for you for taking charge on this situation and taking care of those kids!! And yes definitely call the school nurse. They NEED to know. Or else, they may be coming back to your house with it again before long.

DrPB2b13 · January 2012

That is awful, I agree the school should be notified though. That many times since school started is crazy! There is definitely a constant reinfestation somewhere, and the school can help to pinpoint that and deal with it. And regardless, other parents at the school should be notified so they can check their own kids and be prepared to deal with it.

Zimsgirl · January 2012

Can you revisit custody issues?

sweetcanadian1979 · January 2012

I would call the school.

Then i would have your fiance call his ex.

Then i would document every single thing to use against her.

Then i would take her back to court.

That is just me though, you need the documentation, times, dates, etc in order for you to be really effective in court.

MMRoberts11 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I would call the school. Then i would have your fiance call his ex. Then i would document every single thing to use against her. Then i would take her back to court. That is just me though, you need the documentation, times, dates, etc in order for you to be really effective in court.
Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

This. Definitely have it be documented each time. Hopefully things get better. I can't believe she would do that!

KrisKenny · January 2012

Oh, believe me. There's plenty of documentation to be able to get custody but FI doesn't want to do that. The three of his children already put a strain on our relationship at times and if we were to have custody, it would probably be worse.

I've told FI in the past that he should do what's best for the children but he feels that they staying with her is. So, you know what, I'm not going to fight about it.

It's bad enough FI freakin flipped his noddle today for no apparant reason, other than he hasn't gotten laid in 3 days (sorry to be so blunt). I was exhausted last night and went to sleep and he just went off on me today saying that I was always bi*ching about something, when in fact, I wasn't. Even his kids were telling him to calm down that I didn't do anything wrong.

Ok, thanks for letting me vent again.

sweetcanadian1979 · January 2012

Oh man, we sometimes go weeks without sex, fiance is like an old man n goes to bed so early n i stay up late and sometimes we are too tired, but we are very affectionate & cuddle lots. 3 days is nothing lol, but my fiance picks fights when he is stressed, for no reason.

That is too bad that they put a strain on you guys, the kids are the ones to suffer.

KrisKenny · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh man, we sometimes go weeks without sex, fiance is like an old man n goes to bed so early n i stay up late and sometimes we are too tired, but we are very affectionate & cuddle lots. 3 days is nothing lol, but <strong>my fiance picks fights when he is stressed, for no reason</strong>. That is too bad that they put a strain on you guys, the kids are the ones to suffer.
Posted by sweetcanadian1979[/QUOTE]

This is exactly what happened. When he got home from work at 10pm last night, he appologized.

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