Question re Monetary Shower gift

Re: Question re Monetary Shower gift

• mbuckley85 member

  

  August 2012

  Cash it... The person who wrote it will appreciate you not holding the check, I'm sure! I deposited mine too. I know how pissed I would be if a check was held for 2 months after I wrote it!

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• mrshall1027

  

  August 2012

  I think you should cash it and if you want to wait until after the wedding, just put it in a savings account.  Send a thank you note so that they know you received the check.

  
  

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• tamrahelmer

  

  August 2012

  I would say to cash it. If it were me giving the gift, I would want that check to be cashed so I could balance the checkbook.  If you feel like you definitely should not use it until after the wedding then set it aside or put in a savings account. You could always write a thank you note saying that you have cashed it and set aside the money for whatever you plan to use it for.

  
  
  

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• PetalPockets2012 member

  

  August 2012

  Cash the check.
  
  We are saving all the money we get through checks and gift cards and planning on spending it after the wedding to complete our registry. If we have money left over, we will decide from then. That way it doesn't just get mixed in with regular bills and it will be sort of special when we spend it.

  
  

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• mbuckley85 member

  

  August 2012

  I will say, that we did end up using some of it.  Technically, if you can afford to replace it, you can use it.  We deposited the $650.00 we had in checks/cash and used 300.00 to pay off some of our rings.  We still owe about $2,300.00 on our bands so we have been slowly paying them off.  Also, we got Bed, Bath and Beyond gift cards and I did use those because FI and I decided to buy the garment bag we registered for with them.  The garment bag couldn't wait because we need it for next weekend (FI is in a wedding in Buffalo...five hours away and then y cousin gets married in NYC so we have to fly from Buffalo to NYC).  It would have been stupid to pay cash with all those gift cards laying around.

  
  

  Most older people I know are actually surprised that you can't use the shower gifts...When I mentioned it to someone they basically said they'd never heard that!  I get the theory but I do think it is kind of silly.  That being said, we have waited on using MOST of our gifts and can afford to replace the money/gift cards that we have used.  

  
  

  FI and I cannot wait to come home from the honeymoon to our bed (and all the new bedding).  We have 6 brand new pillows, a down comforter, a duvet, new sheets and two new blankets for the bed.  We are itching to use them soo bad, but we know it will be that much more special to use after we are married :-)

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• had26 member

  

  August 2012

  Thanks all!  I figured it was safe because I know if it were me I would want it to be cashed.  I have a savings account and will just put it in there for the time being.

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• aimeek420

  

  August 2012 edited August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_question-re-monetary-shower-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:f0074dda-da6f-48df-9d8e-380305738d5dPost:c0386f1e-adf7-4b64-bd5b-a19782358efa">Re: Question re Monetary Shower gift</a>:
  [QUOTE]I will say, that we did end up using some of it.  Technically, if you can afford to replace it, you can use it.  <strong>We deposited the $650.00 we had in checks/cash and used 300.00 to pay off some of our rings.  We still owe about $2,300.00 on our bands so we have been slowly paying them off.  </strong>Also, we got Bed, Bath and Beyond gift cards and I did use those because FI and I decided to buy the garment bag we registered for with them.  The garment bag couldn't wait because we need it for next weekend (FI is in a wedding in Buffalo...five hours away and then y cousin gets married in NYC so we have to fly from Buffalo to NYC).  It would have been stupid to pay cash with all those gift cards laying around. Most older people I know are actually surprised that you can't use the shower gifts...When I mentioned it to someone they basically said they'd never heard that!  I get the theory but I do think it is kind of silly.  That being said, we have waited on using MOST of our gifts and can afford to replace the money/gift cards that we have used.   FI and I cannot wait to come home from the honeymoon to our bed (and all the new bedding).  We have 6 brand new pillows, a down comforter, a duvet, new sheets and two new blankets for the bed.  We are itching to use them soo bad, but we know it will be that much more special to use after we are married :-)
  Posted by mbuckley85[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>No offense, but was it appropriate to let the world know how much cash you've received as gifts and how much your rings cost?</div>

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