How have you honored your lost loved ones at your wedding?

mavargo · January 2012

I'm trying to think of a way to honor and remember my mom at my wedding ceremony. How have you honored those you have lost at your wedding? Parents, Grandparents, Ect?

TiffannieF · January 2012

I'm sorry for your loss, I also didn't have my mom at my wedding so I understand. I have some ideas and cautions about "memorials" including how I honored my mother in my bio under "In Memory Of"

Magdala9 · January 2012

I wore my grandmother's ring as my something old. both sets of granparents were includedin our slide show.

calibud8 · January 2012

we're lighting a candle on the altar for them, and we are including them in the slide show.

jeffsgirl100612 · January 2012

My mom's favorite flowers were yellow roses and my dad's were red roses, my boquet will have one yellow and one red rose, along with pictures of them both when they were young in a pretty locket/broach ... Both of our parents are gone so we are going to each light a candle on the altar to signify our parents, and use those candles to light our candles to light our unity candle ( If I find one I like)
We are also getting married on the riverfront of my hometown on the Mississippi up the river from the bridge that my dad helped build, when he was sick he always said the bridge was his memorial... it will be like he is there with me.
I think we may have a moment of silence or prayer for those who could not be with us, deppending on my emotional state, as this missing my mom is making me crazy right now!

squarepeg72 · January 2012

Please check with your family before you decide on any type of memorial. I am wearing my dads college ring (I wear it everyday anyway) and we aer placing pictures of our grandparents on thier wedding days along with a picture of my dad in his military uniform on a piano at the reception. The sheet music to "When I Get Where I am going" will be on the piano like someone is getting ready to play the piece. The last line on the back of the Program fan says "We remember those who can be with us only in spirit today"

jmp2004 · January 2012

My cousin did a slideshow at the beginning of her wedding and included a lot a pictures of her and her father and things. Yes, it was difficult for everyone (very few dry eyes in the house), but it was beautiful, and didn't put even a bit of a damper on the event. She hated that he never got to see her get married.

Just because it may be emotional, doesn't mean you don't have every right to honor your mother in the way that you see fitting.

kateguess22 · January 2012

We're still figuring this out. My FI and I have both lost our fathers. I would like to wear a wrist corsage and my sister wants to wear one too because my dad always gave us corsages for our birthdays. It will be a little way to have him with me. We might get ones for my sister in law, aunt, and grandma to wear as well. My dad also called me "Moose" as my nickname so i'm trying to think of a fun way to incorporate this into the wedding (how silly, I know lol) maybe our cake topper will be little moose's or I might have the word moose stitched under my dress where nobody will see it or something like that. Or we could have Mousse for dessert for a play on words. Also we want to mention them in our program. Our wedding colours are white and purple which ties in with my FI's dad for a secret reason that our guests won't know. I may also put a little photo attached to my bouquet of my dad. I also want to buy a little ring for my pinky finger (my dad and I had a secret handshake with our pinkies) and put his birtstone in it and get it engraved with my dad's favourite quote he used to say to me every morning and wear it for the first time when I walk down the aisle. We are also considering having two candles lit where we say our vows to symbolize their presence. I'm really big on doing it in sneaky little ways that not everyone will know and doing it in fun ways that will make me smile. That's the kind of thing my dad would have wanted for sure.

Gloric21 · January 2012

I used that for my brother. I got it on etsy.com, but can't find any more that the seller has made recently.

Sydney91 · February 2012

I'm not mentioning the loss of a close family friend, since it was recent and her boys are missing their mom terribly. I am however putting a chair in the back or to the side for her with a reserved sign and a single flower on it (I will ask what her favourite was - no matter if I'm allergic or it clashes with everything else). That way no one will sit there and her spirit can have a place to sit if there are such things and she feels like coming out for the day.

Sydney91 · February 2012

I forgot to mention that her family sets a place for her at supper in her old spot. They truly believe she's their guardian angel now and try to make her feel welcome and something along the lines of not sad. They celebrate her life and tell lots of stories about her. I imagine it gets pretty difficult when they're alone sometimes though, which is why I am asking her family if they object to my plans, but I took the plan from their place setting at the table.

No one will be sitting next to the empty chair. It will be off to the side at the back and many guests will think it was the chair pulled aside to make way for my mom's wheelchair.

Phantom&Tessa · February 2012

My grandfather passed away last May: he was very beloved to me because he and Grandma spent my 21st birthday with me. My parents actually went out for the night without me, and my sister forgot my birthday despite her birthday being 5 days before mine. So my grandparents became far, far more precious to me.

I am very lucky though: my grandmother gave me the moneybox that belonged to my grandfather apparently since he was a child, and I'm fairly sure there's a sixpence in there among all the farthings (UK money). So I'll be following the adage of "Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue...and a sixpence in the shoe". So I'll be doing that for him, and for Grandma, who won't be able to be there for my wedding because it's in the US and she's in England.

She also gave me Granddad's wedding ring but it was the wrong size for my fiance and we decided not to resize it. Instead we're keeping it by in case any of our eventual children find it fits, in which case they can have it, knowing that it belonged to a very brave man.

traybay88 · February 2012

I hope I can explain this right. Our theme is bicycles. They are on the invite,reception decor, & holding our church programs,etc. So we will be buying/getting a red radio flyer tricycle. We are going to be spray painting it white (for angles & innocents ) we have both lost plenty of people in our lives, this will go in the foyer of the Chuch, not directly in the sanctuary. We will have white streams coming from the handle bars & also a brief "the tricycle is to honor those that can.t be with us today, in the program. We also might have a small sign on the actually tricycle saying don't touch/sit /ride.

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