I'm a BM in my brothers wedding and I was very to happy to hear that they wanted me to be in it. Lately though I've been getting frustrated because I feel like she's not taking into account that we all don't have an unlimited budget. She never asked us how much we could spend on a dress or anything. The dress is $200 (without alterations) and the shoes (that i will never wear again AND will be switching shoes right after pictures because she's requiring us to wear heels and my will be husband is my height) are $80 and with my wedding (a month before) and everything else, its just really hard for me to afford some of these things. When I think about stuff for my bridesmaids, I've been trying to make it as cost effective as possible because I would feel bad for making people buy things they might never wear again (basically I just picked out a cheaper dress and the rest they can pick out). I just wish she was more thoughtful when she picked some of this stuff and I know when you agree to be a BM you have to know you'll be spending some money. And I cant bring up this stuff because my brother and the bride are kind of dramatic and if I say something they will think I don't like her or something. Just a little frustrated.