So my dilemma is that a couple of my bridesmaids, including my sister, have been complaining about how much my wedding is going to cost them and how much they feel like they have to do for it (little do they consider how much I'm spending and how much time I'm putting into it). So of course its already starting to be about them and not me. Now I'm not one of those brides who has to be everything is about me, blah blah blah, but its really starting to stress me out that they can't just look past themselves for a few months decide that they aren't going to complain about it. Looking back I know I should have been more clear about what being a bridesmaid might entail, and ask them if that was a responsibility they were ready to take on, nd if not, allow them to politely decline and I would find someone else, no hard feelings. But now it is 5 weeks til the wedding and they are still complaining and its too late to find replacements (dresses are already ordered). So I guess me question is, how do I approach this situation? Do I sit down and talk with them about it and let them know how I feel or just hope they will grow up between now and then? The hardest part is that these bridesmaids are my sister and one of my best friends from childhood, and its breaking my heart that they are acting like this.