Attire - only solid Black color for guests

lucienesilva · January 2012

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nitecheese · January 2012

While it would be a classy look, technically it is an etiquette no-no to dictate what your guests will wear. Something along the lines of "black-tie optional" or "black tie required" is fine, but dictating specific colors may be a bit meddlesome.

Grits8812 · January 2012

You can't tell your guests what to wear, male or female.. But if you put that it is a black tie event, they will know to dress fancy.

jemmini6 · January 2012

Yes, it's rude to dictate what color your guests wear. Even if it's a black tie event, guests can still wear any color they'd like.

I assure you, you will have a great time at your wedding regardless of what color your guests will be wearing.

HobokensFury · January 2012

Ditto PP. You can't tell your guests what to wear.

skippylouwho · January 2012

I'd decline the invitation with regrets.

I don't own solid black, my husband's suits are not black. I don't care to own black clothing.

Have a wonderful day and a happy life!

achiduck · January 2012

The owner of the studio where I take ballet did this - they had a black and white wedding and requested on the invite that guests wear either black and/or white. While the wedding and photos looked great you really can't tell your guests what to wear.

The only way I think you can get away with this is to put something on your wedding website that explains your theme and tells guests they can participate - if they want to. You need to leave it optional. You'd then put a little insert in with your invitations that has your URL.

entropicbeauty · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_attire-only-solid-black-color-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:bf93e2af-8437-404f-88b2-f4ed674f7604Post:db12091a-419f-4b12-84ac-82f40da3b4a1">Re: Attire - only solid Black color for guests</a>:
[QUOTE]The owner of the studio where I take ballet did this - they had a black and white wedding and requested on the invite that guests wear either black and/or white. While the wedding and photos looked great you really can't tell your guests what to wear. The only way I think you can get away with this is to put something on your wedding website that explains your theme and tells guests they can participate - if they want to. You need to leave it optional. You'd then put a little insert in with your invitations that has your URL.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

This exactly - I'm doing a 1920's theme, and as much as I would loooove to tell everyone to dress up to the era, I can't require it. My wedding web site will indicate the theme and have a page that outlines what typical fashions were for the era in case people WANT to participate.

RamonaFlowers · January 2012

Ditto PP's, you can't tell your guests what to wear, because it's rude, not to mention pretty silly. Even if there was a polite way to ask, there's no way you could actually enforce it without looking like a jerk. If Aunt Betsy shows up in a blue dress with Uncle Bob in his brown suit, what are you going to do? Have them kicked out because they don't "match your theme"? I assure you, doing something like that will have your family and friends discussing your wedding for years ... and not in a positive way.

kateguess22 · January 2012

I completely agree with PP's. It's simply not an option for you to dictate what your guests are to wear to your wedding. It's a huge breach of etiquette plus you have much bigger things to be worrying about and planning at this point. I know that you mean well but if you do this then you will only be making yourself look bad. You just can't control what your guests show up in on your wedding day. You have plenty of decisions to make about lots of decorations to create your theme- but your guests aren't part of the decor. For your own sake, do not do this. The comments people will make about this whether to your face or behind your back will just do you no good.

Sydney91 · January 2012

Dress codes ask for trouble. My dad would show up in his short-shorts (those ghastly things from the 80's that he has worn holes into - ugh) and cowboy boots. Just to make a point. You can put the theme plans on the website and encourage people to participate, but that's it. Like someone said, you don't want your wedding and you to be talked about in the coming years for all the wrong reasons.

kmmssg · January 2012

You only get to choose what your bridal party wears, not your guests. Please let this idea go as it is completely rude.

whitney37354 · January 2012

I'm probably the only person in the world who tries to coordinate my outfit with the wedding colors of others, but I'm weird that way! I never buy anything new for the occasion unless I'm actually a part of the wedding & have nothing in that color.

In this case, my husband wouldn't be able to attend because he doesn't own a suit. I would be there, but my blouse & skirt would probably be two different shades of black & I won't buy a new dress for the occasion.

We are invited to an April wedding. On their website, they tell us the reasoning behind the bright colors that will be worn by the wedding party & encourage others to wear bright colors as well. I think that is a nice idea. No one is being pushed into it. I've also gone to a "western" themed wedding & I wore my cowboy boots to a wedding for the first & only time so far.

alyssatoepfer · February 2012

OK, Kim Kardashian...

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