My guy and I are having a very small wedding, less than 40 people (including ourselves). We chose to have it small for cost and stress reasons. We wanted it to be just family and our dearest friends. However, there are other people we'd like to have involved who aren't as close to us as our families, like work friends and old friends we don't see/talk to that much anymore.
I was thinking that these people could be invited to a bridal shower, since i am fond of them and want them to celebrate with me somehow. Would it be rude to invite people to a shower and not to the wedding? How do I explain to them why they won't be coming to the big event (which will actually be pretty low-key)? I know it's my day and i can do as i like, but i certainly don't want my friends and co-workers to think i'm snubbing them.
Any thoughts?