October 2012 Weddings

Wedding is back on! (and long Vent)

A month or so ago I did a quick post about FI calling off the wedding. To make a long story short FI was very unhappy with the way my family was treating him and me. In his anger he didn't want to have a wedding with people who had been treating us like sh*t. I of course was devastatated that I would not have a wedding. After some talking we decided that we are not going to let other people stop us from doing what we want to do. FI's family is excited and if my family wants to go then they will go. I won't worry what they say or think. We never canceled anything since we are having a small wedding only had put the deposit down for the chapel. I'm back on track and can't wait for my bridal shower in September.

Oh and on another topic my sister dropped out as my MOH (this is what was FI's final straw). She told me it was because of money. In truth I think it is something else since her bridesmaids dress was only $38 (I bought it and she was going to pay me back). She told me, through text, that she can't do it. Ok I would have paid for her dress since I already did and my parents (who are like the only ones happy for us) said she could go to Vegas with them. At first I was sad and hurt she would do this to me but now I am angry. This is my closest sister who I always knew would be my MOH and she bails on me 3 months out. I wasn't asking for her to spend lots of money, I found an inexpensive dress and FI is paying for my shower, but time from her and my other BM. The day she text me was the day we were suppose to get together to make my shower invites and I could tell them the details of the shower. She first gave me an excuse about how she had to pick up her boys from her Ex and then she dropped the bomb on me. I am still hurt but now I am also angry. 

What kind of sister would text you to tell you she is not going to be your MOH and not go to your wedding? Then she gets mad at FI and me and tries to blame us for her not having money (FI sent her a text about how "great" of a sister she is for dropping out on me). Uh I'm not the one who made you leave your husband and go live with another guy. My sister hasn't worked for over a year so she can't blame anyone but herself for the decisions she made. This is even after FI and I lent her $100 to pay some bills. So far all my friends think there is another reason for her bailing but I am just really angry she would do this to me.
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Re: Wedding is back on! (and long Vent)

  • Glad to hear your wedding is back on track. I am sorry about your sister. Some people are just too unstable to be in a wedding. I think you were being very nice and considerate towards her buying her dress and everything for her. 

    I am trying to keep my bridesmaids dress cost under $40 too. I also considered my sister as a bridesmaids, but I dropped her before I asked her due to her emotional unstability and other issues. 

    Good luck w/ everything. Your sister is gonna do what she is gonna do. At least she didn't bail out on your wedding day. 
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  • YAY!!! I'm so glad it's back on and that you and your FI are able to get past the disappointment of your sister's issues in order for you to be married on your terms. That's wonderful news!
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  • Glad to hear your wedding is back on track! Try and take some deep breaths with your sister and just let whatever will be - be with her. It's your day, try not to let her ruin it and enjoy!
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  • I'm sorry your family is being the way they are. I don't know if this will make you feel better but 3 years ago, my friend's family pretty much disowned her and did not attend her wedding. (They did not like that her husband was going to be 17 years older). She's happily married and she and her husband have a daughter. Her family came around eventually. Now everyone's okay. Sorry about your sister. It's a pity that she has too many issues in her own personal life she has to deal with.

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