Registering for expensive items

sprtychick10 · May 2011

My FI and I will be registering for gifts soon and I have a silly question. Did anyone feel "guilty" registering for expensive gifts? We want to register for a Dyson vacuum, Keurig coffee pot, and Kitchen Aid mixer. I feel silly for feeling guilty for registering these. Help. Thanks in advance everyone.

mrsthiel2011 · May 2011

If you have a variety of price points, don't worry about a few expensive items. Some people like going in on gifts together and some people are really generous. Recently, i went in on a Keurig with my mom and SILs for my cousin's bridal shower. We'll probably go in on their wedding gift too and most likely it will be a Kitchenaid mixer.

We plan on registering for a few pieces of furniture (wine rack, coffee table, end table) and don't really expect to get them as wedding gifts (but woud love it if we did), but will buy them after the wedding with the completion discount.

jessicabessica · May 2011

As long as you have a variety of low and moderately priced items as well, it's not a problem to register for more expensive things. I wouldn't register for high-price items you won't actually use, though (I wouldn't register for anything you won't use, but seems even more silly when the stuff is more expensive).

futurepivko · May 2011

nope! dont feel guilty at all. every 'good' registry has a few splurge items, and people wont be turned off as long as you have items in a wide price range variety.

aegrish · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registering-expensive-items?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:2c97702c-cc63-4c03-8c04-ee4fd2463449Post:568dde82-e1a6-4f56-aecb-0d07c469a562">Re: Registering for expensive items</a>:
[QUOTE]nope! dont feel guilty at all. every 'good' registry has a few splurge items, and people wont be turned off as long as you have items in a wide price range variety.
Posted by futurepivko[/QUOTE]

this. Make sure you have spatulas & cake servers priced under $10 for guests who prefer to buy smaller pricepoints and balance out your registry with some $50 & $100 or under gifts too.

Wiscisbliss · May 2011

I felt the same way about the Kitchen Aid Mixer.

I would never ask for something that expensive for my birthday or Christmas, so it just felt greedy and strange. My Mom talked me into it. She said that a good mixer was a good investiment since I would use it for many years. She also said that the mixer would be a good present for a group of people to get me. Or that I could get it with the completion discount after the wedding.

Like PPs said as long as you have a variety of price ranges, you should be all set.

ajroark · May 2011

I felt guilty at first too, but like PPs have said, as long as you have a variety of price points, I doubt anyone will side-eye your registry. Remember that people often will go in on gifts together or those closest to you may want to give you a generous gift. I registered for the Dyson Ball vacuum too and I really hope we get it!

noodle_oo · May 2011

I did. Certain things were *very* expensive and I just couldn't put them on the registry (like a Dyson or anything over $300). So I didn't. I had a rule for myself that if I coudln't see myself actually buying it with my own money, then I didn't register for it. We did have some expensive things, but not many and they weren't too expensive (most expensive was like $180). I just knew our friends/family probably wouldn't spend that much and I didn't want our registry to look greedy. And if we wouldn't buy it ourselves anyway, it seemed rude to register for super expensive stuff just because we hoped other people would buy it for us. But I know, I'm probably in the minority.

MrsChasey · May 2011

No, because we know some people will go in together on bigger purchases.

Milsey32 · May 2011

I think most people feel guilty/greedy for even the slightest bit but then you get over it and realize it's normal. Big ticket items are definitely okay (you may have some generous guests OR people may want to go in as a group) and I think it's definitely okay as long as there aren't too many and something like a KitchenAid mixer will be used often in my future house... and everyone could use a vacuum! so those are beneficial and practical gifts anyway. Don't sweat it and have fun! [:

mary9449 · May 2011

Don't worry about it at all. Make sure you balance it out with less expensive items, but people will go in together and get those items.

solaneoh · May 2011

I felt guilty about putting a Keurig and Kitchenaid but they were some of the first things that were purchased. I still can't believe people want to buy us gifts!

StacyJenniges · May 2011

I did feel guilty, but my MOH said to registar for some of them as there are some people who like to go together. Plus if they are something you really want or need, most places will give you a percentange off if you buy things after the wedding.

but make sure that you hit lots of price points. I thought of how much money I spend on weddings and made sure I had plenty of gifts around that price point.

Good Luck.

shortee426 · May 2011

Keep in mind that your registry is a wish list, not a demand for someone to purchase list. Have a few big ticket items is OK. As long as you have plenty of items in lower price points, your guests shouldn't be offended. If they can't afford the more expensive things they will either not purchase it and purchase something less expensive, or they will get a few people to pitch in to purchase it.

And heck...if no one purchases it for you, you'll get to use your completion discount so worst case scenario you save money to purchase it yourself!

GrizBearGirl · May 2011

FI at first was dead set against registering for anything expensive - he said over $10 was too much for his family. I gave him "the look" and got my way........ So the registry has a few items over $100 - 6 to be exact, the most expensive being the KitchenAid mixer, because I want the lift bowl model. But, almost everything else is under $50, and the entire value is right around $3500, and that includes fine china, so I think it's ok. The big fight now is a Keurig - I'm dead set against it - I love my REAL coffee, and Kcups don't give me the same taste.

shortee426 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registering-expensive-items?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:2c97702c-cc63-4c03-8c04-ee4fd2463449Post:41005d50-f56f-48fd-b03c-7c6b64613eee">Re: Registering for expensive items</a>:
[QUOTE]FI at first was dead set against registering for anything expensive - he said over $10 was too much for his family. I gave him "the look" and got my way........ So the registry has a few items over $100 - 6 to be exact, the most expensive being the KitchenAid mixer, because I want the lift bowl model. But, almost everything else is under $50, and the entire value is right around $3500, and that includes fine china, so I think it's ok. The big fight now is a Keurig - I'm dead set against it -<strong> I love my REAL coffee, and Kcups don't give me the same taste. </strong>
Posted by GrizBearGirl[/QUOTE]

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Olivia0686 · May 2011

I don't even want to register because of this. FI and I have been living together for 4 years so we have everything that we need and most of what we want. I can't really think of anything that I want to register for. For Christmas I got FI a Keurig and he got me a Kitchen Aid Mixer. I have been considering do a very small registry, so maybe people will just give us money. We want to go on a cruise for our HM, it would be awesome to have extra money for that.

Since you are planning on registering for those types of big ticket items you should do it very soon. I work at Lowe's and every so often we will have sales like 20% off small appliances and every once in a while 10%- 20% off with a mail in rebate. I got the Keurig for $80 and he got the mixer for $100 with a $20 mail in rebate. Not only will registering early give poeple the opportunity to wait for good sales, but it will give them time to get their finances in order (if need be) so they can afford to get the more expensive items. I know that if my friend registered for something that cost $100+, that I wanted to get for them, then I would have to save for a month or two.

Allycat11 · May 2011

I definitely felt guilty at first over a few things...my KA mixer and a nice grill. Both in the $300ish range. However, no one HAS to buy it for us, and if no one does we will use wedding money to go get it later. We also know we have generous family members who may buy it for us, or a group of people may go in on a large gift like those. We balance it out with tons of small gadgets (under $10) and quite a few things in te $50-100 range as well.

sprtychick10 · May 2011

Thanks for all the wonderful words of wisdom ladies. I knew I was being silly. I can't wait to start our registry!

kat22885 · May 2011

I also used the rule that if it wasn't something I would buy for myself, then it wouldn't go on the registry. But unlike the PP...that's because our set of pots & pans is a little expensive. However, I did my research on them, and we desparately need a new set of pots & pans. When it came down to it, I would buy them myself, so they went on the registry.

Then when it came to registering for place settings...I would never in a million years spend $100 per plate setting, so we skipped that. So I'm very comfortable with the items that are on our registry.

I'll agree with others too...you're good as long as you have a nice range of items on your list.

marinabreeze · May 2011

I think it's okay to register for expensive things as long as you hit different price points in your registry and the expensive items are useful to you.

I did place the KA mixer on the registry because I like to cook and bake and could use a good stand mixer. It's the most expensive item on our registry, and it's something I will buy if no one gets it for us. However, we did not register for fine china since we aren't "fine china" people anyway, not to mention my mom may give us hers (which was a wedding gift she never used either lol).

BlueBoxBride · May 2011

I'm glad the OP will register for what she wants.

babblingbrookey · May 2011

Our bigger items were the ones that were purchased first. I think a lot of the family wanted to buy us the biggest and best things on the registy and everyone chipped in to make it happen.

LauraleeMarc · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_registering-expensive-items?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:2c97702c-cc63-4c03-8c04-ee4fd2463449Post:35747220-d333-4eb7-a744-4c2240fd0e50">Re: Registering for expensive items</a>:
[QUOTE]If you have a variety of price points, don't worry about a few expensive items. Some people like going in on gifts together and some people are really generous. Recently, i went in on a Keurig with my mom and SILs for my cousin's bridal shower. We'll probably go in on their wedding gift too and most likely it will be a Kitchenaid mixer. We plan on registering for a few pieces of furniture (wine rack, coffee table, end table) and don't really expect to get them as wedding gifts (but woud love it if we did), but will buy them after the wedding with the completion discount.
Posted by mrsthiel2011[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

Llama+Aar Bear · May 2011

Olivia0686: If you are interested in registering for part of your honeymoon instead of gifts, like it sounds like you might be, you can actually use HoneyFund and register specific parts of the honeymoon, like a romantic dinner or snorkeling or horseback riding when your cruise docks or something, so it gives you the money you were interested in for use on your honeymoon like you mentioned but also gives your guests a nice feeling that they gave you something specific for your wedding since like everyone seems to be saying, its amazing how generous our family and friends can be in terms of fulfilling wishes on our registeries.

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