Ladies, please help dress me :) PIP heavy

Amt2109 · December 2011

H has a work Christmas party this Saturday, which he told me about yesterday. This sparked a fashion crisis. I don't have any dressy tops to speak of, and I'd feel too dressed up in my dresses. I don't have a chance to shop before Saturday (and he's not going to want to drag around the mall with me anyway).

It's the first time I'm meeting work people (I've met a couple but only because he's friends with them outside work). I'll also be meeting his bosses. I want to make a good impression.

I've decided already on dark jeans and either black or brown heeled boots (inside the jeans). These are the options I have for tops (very sorry for the quality of the pics, they were taken on my phone). And please excuse the mess, its laundry day!

Thank you for your help

brown twist front long sleeve

blue scoop neck. Though it's probably too short on me now

Red ruched v-neck. Also have a light blue one like this

slight wrap front

Wrap front sweater. Also have this in dark grey

Amt2109 · December 2011

Aye, I hear you on the not dressy enough... these are my 'nice everyday wardrobe'.

I need a basics shopping trip lol... I thought I was fine, but I have nothing between 'nice everyday' and 'dressed to the nines'.

The slight wrap front is actually kinda a grey-blue. I haven't worn it much so may be time to dust it off.

Thanks.

becka717 · December 2011

I like the gray? slight wrap front best, followed by the wrap front sweater, probably the dark grey color, though the maroonish might be more festive. Third would be the brown twist front. The blue one isn't too short, but I'm not feeling it. I feel the red one isn't dressy enough, but I'm not sure why I think that.

Gabrielle76 · December 2011

I like the wrap front sweater, it looks festive. I would pair it with some sparkly jewelry!

AmethystMSU · December 2011

How dressy are you supposed to be? At my old job, Christmas parties were semi-formal and people wore what they would wear to a nice wedding. That meant a dress or nice skirt/top combo for women. I would make sure you find out just in case jeans would be too casual.

becka717 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]Aye, I hear you on the not dressy enough... these are my 'nice everyday wardrobe'. I need a basics shopping trip lol... <strong>I thought I was fine, but I have nothing between 'nice everyday' and 'dressed to the nines'.</strong> The slight wrap front is actually kinda a grey-blue. I haven't worn it much so may be time to dust it off. Thanks. :)
Posted by Amt2109[/QUOTE]

I know the feeling, I have to decide what I'm going to wear to my own company Christmas party next week. :)

Amt2109 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]How dressy are you supposed to be? At my old job, Christmas parties were semi-formal and people wore what they would wear to a nice wedding. That meant a dress or nice skirt/top combo for women. I would make sure you find out just in case jeans would be too casual.
Posted by AmethystMSU[/QUOTE]

I have no idea. I can't get in touch with the host directly and H doesn't think to ask such things (and if I asked him to ask, he'd tell me it didn't matter). So I figured smart-casual to err on the side of caution.

bruna29 · December 2011

I either like the slight wrap front or the wrap front sweater.

Kome2012 · December 2011

I would definitely ask your love to ask tomorrow. I have never been to a non-semi formal Xmas party, so jeans seems WAY underdressed to me.

AmethystMSU · December 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ladies, please help dress me :) PIP heavy : I have no idea. I can't get in touch with the host directly and H doesn't think to ask such things (and if I asked him to ask, he'd tell me it didn't matter). So I figured smart-casual to err on the side of caution.
Posted by Amt2109[/QUOTE]

To me, erring on the side of caution would be wearing a skirt or nice pants. If it's dressy, your jeans, no matter how dark, will stick out like a sore thumb.

chickenbut143 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]I like the wrap front sweater, it looks festive. I would pair it with some sparkly jewelry!
Posted by Gabrielle76[/QUOTE]

I'm with Gabrielle - I like the wrap sweater. :)

mandctaft · December 2011

I like the wrap front, in the color in the pic. Looks great!

mollyehren · December 2011

I'm always a fan of the upscale consignment shops, cheap enough for a dress you may not wear again but classy enough to make your husband look good good to the bosses. I personally believe a little overdressed is always better than under dressed. Von Maur also always has awesome cheap clearance dresses

AmethystMSU · December 2011

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[QUOTE]I personally believe a little overdressed is always better than under dressed.
Posted by mollyehren[/QUOTE]

I completely agree but no one, including OP, is getting it. Wearing jeans to my old employer's Christmas party would have made you the talk of the party and definitely would not have impressed coworkers nor the boss.

bruna29 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ladies, please help dress me :) PIP heavy : I completely agree but no one, including OP, is getting it. Wearing jeans to my old employer's Christmas party would have made you the talk of the party and definitely would not have impressed coworkers nor the boss.
Posted by AmethystMSU[/QUOTE]
I agree with this. I would prefer to be overdressed than underdressed. If I was going to someone's Christmas party, regardless of who it is, I would probably look nice in some black pants and a nice shirt. My mom hosts a Christmas Eve party every year, and whenever we have newcomers, they always look dressed up and nice. Granted we don't ever have a dress code, but it's always nice to look a little nicer for parties and holidays. :)<div>Yes, I realize how many times I said "nice" in that paragraph.</div>

Amt2109 · December 2011

I'll take the dress pants note on board and see if I have anything. Not sure I do though.

Amt2109 · December 2011

I found a single solitary pair of dark grey wide leg dress pants in the wardrobe. Black heeled boots, and the purple wrap sweater?

Thanks for all your help ladies, it's much appreciated.

Kome2012 · December 2011

Do you not own any kind of dress/skirt? Even slacks is a bit inappropriate for a holiday party for ladies imho. If you are stuck with pants, a sweater you normally wear with jeans probably is a bit on the casual side. Do you have any cute jackets you could layer with to add some sense of "dressy"? ie: a girly top (sparkles, ruffles, something interesting) with a black cropped blazer.

SaraB102 · December 2011

If you're asking for opinions of the wrap sweater with dark grey dress pants and black heeled boots, I think they would work much better at getting close to the unknown dress code than jeans. Hope you have a good time, and find out who the organizer of said party is so that you can chat them up, and get better info for next year! Have fun!

AmethystMSU · December 2011

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[QUOTE]If you're asking for opinions of the wrap sweater with dark grey dress pants and black heeled boots, I think they would work much better at getting close to the unknown dress code than jeans. Hope you have a good time, and find out who the organizer of said party is so that you can chat them up, and get better info for next year! Have fun!
Posted by SaraB102[/QUOTE]
This exactly. If it ends up that nice jeans are the norm there, you will stick out less than if you wear jeans and everyone wears nice pants/skirt/dress. Also, sticking out for being slightly overdressed is MUCH better than sticking out for being underdressed, IMO.

And I second Becka... can you ask his coworker friends who have been there for at least a year? I imagine the Christmas party is an annual thing so they should know what the dress code is. That would at least give you some peace of mind!

Amt2109 · December 2011

I'll see if I can get in touch with any of them, but I definitely feel better after talking to you all.

I'll try and upgrade my wardrobe a bit in the new year!

becka717 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]I found a single solitary pair of dark grey wide leg dress pants in the wardrobe. Black heeled boots, and the purple wrap sweater? Thanks for all your help ladies, it's much appreciated. :)
Posted by Amt2109[/QUOTE]

Sounds good! You mentioned H has freinds he works with, could you ask them what the dress code might be?

entropicbeauty · December 2011

You should dress up and have fun with it! Even for family gatherings I put on a nice skirt and sweater...even if some of my other familiy members are wearing jeans and flannel it doesn't matter. Holiday means you're allowed to get fancy!

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