The Big Day without Mom

Re: The Big Day without Mom

• vk2204 member

  

  July 2012

  I'm sorry about your mom. Just know that she is always with you, especially during those stressful moments. Just take a deep breath and everything will be okay!

   

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• Christine9866 member

  

  July 2012

  Both my FI and I are going through this. Both my dad and his mom have passed. I do get emotional thinking about the day, especially the walk down the aisle. I just keep telling myself that they will be there in spirit, but I also laugh because if my dad was here our wedding would be soooo different (aka more traditional and we would be getting married in a church bc my dad was old school italian!) FIs dad is an artist so he is going to be drawing portraits of both my dad and his mom. They are going to be placed on the table for our ceremony and we are going to light a memorial candle for them. We then are going to have the drawings and candle be brought into the reception and have the candel going all night.

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• orangehills

  

  July 2012

  I'm sorry about your mom My dad passed away in 2006, and I'm having a hard time imagining walking down the aisle without him there. But I know he'll be there in spirit, and his best friends will be there. I decided not to do any kind of memorial candle or anything, because I don't want to bring anyone down or make myself cry, since I'll already be emotional I'm sure! I figure, when you find yourself starting to dwell on the thoughts and get depressed, just go over and start talking to someone to get your mind off of it for the time being!

  
  

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• ChiGirl2013 member

  

  July 2012

  My dad is choosing not to be there, so my emotions are probably a lot different.  It still hurts, though.  I hope that, as your big day gets closer, you will be able to feel the excitement that I know your mom would want you to feel. 
  
  It's still touch and go if my mom will be able to travel for our destination wedding due to her having stage 3 cancer, but she told me "No matter what happens to me, whether I go or not, you get your butt down there and have the best day of your life!  That day is about you and Eric, and that's where all your happiness should come from - NOT whether or not I'm sitting in a chair watching you."  I'm sure your mom would give you similar advice if she could.
  
  *HUGS* to everyone who will be missing someone special on their big day.

  
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• kayteak

  

  July 2012

  Thanks ladies!!  I went for a flower consultation this morning (hate when she's asked about in deciding about flowers, dresses, etc) but the florist was really sweet about it and didn't dwell or ask any questions.  Yay!  She did inquire about a seat at the ceremony though, and I agree Orangehills, I don't think I will because it will already be enough to think about let alone see as I walk down the aisle.  I told her I'm probably going to dangle pictures and/or one of her rings on my bouquet.  The hardest parts are things she should be a part of- planning wise.  Since I moved away at 18 she probably wouldn't be here for these meetings anyways but I'd have her to call immediately afterwards.  It's a bunch of odd emotions where I don't know if I'm sad, happy, or just can feel that "something's missing".  It's how I always feel anyhow but it's strickingly obvious right now.  I don't talk about it all that much cause I don't want to bring others down and I HATE pitty so thanks for listening .  It is what it is, right?

  

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