I am MOH and am working with my fellow maids to plan a bachelorette party. From the start the bride has wanted a destination bachelorette, which I am happy to give her. She provided dates she is available and we have chatted about different location possibilities. Many of the invitees are in one location and they could drive to many of her suggested destinations, while the other half will have to fly in. This combined with hotels, food, activities, etc. has made me cost conscious from the start. It would be cheaper to keep it where the majority live (no hotels and flights are cheaper for most), but the bride doesn't want it where she lives because she doesn't want to run into people she knows. She has since messaged me with some suggestions of what she would like to do during the weekend, and asked me to look into them. They certainly aren't cheap. She says she realizes how expensive this could be for some, but is still certain she wants it to be a destination weekend. I really don't want to let her down if she has certain ideas about her bach. party, but I also don't want to break the bank (mine or anyone elses).
My questions:
1.) How do I politely tell her to leave the planning to me and the other maids? (I know it's not a bachelorette party if she plans it...it's just a party.)
2.) What have been your experiences with juggling what a bride wants in a party and what you're able to give her?