VENT Tired of people's bull

blahblah85 · May 2012

I sent out my invites at the beginning of April. I have received a QUARTER of my RSVP's. I am tired of people verbally telling me they are coming, and verbally telling my parents they are coming, and verbally telling my fmil they are coming! Seriously, f*ck these people! I have gotten back FOUR RSVP's that are blank, although someone did take the time with one of them to tell me, "guest, my grilfriend(sic)' is coming!

FI's friend is getting married. We got the invitation. GUESS WHO DIDN'T RSVP? THAT GUY!! Seriously. Why the hell should we waste time, energy, and money on his stupid wedding if he can't even be bothered to RSVP for ours?

blahblah85 · May 2012

I'm still not done! I'm tired of people doing this to FI! He is a great guy, and he deserves the same respect, and courtsey that he gives to other people, and he never gets it! I am so overwhelmingly pissed right now I am shaking.

Oh, they also put a nice card for their BB&B registry in their wedding invitation, but didn't bother including a card with infomation about the reception. How tacky!

max&lucy · May 2012

Take a deep breath. Try not to take this personally. Some people (or in this case, a lot of people) are bad at sending in reply cards. Doesn't matter that you make it easy for them by putting the stamp on there or whatever - they just can't seem to manage it and they likely do this for every invitation they receive - not just yours.

I would just tally up your numbers and call those people who haven't replied at all and then move on so you can focus on your fabulous wedding day!!

AurorasEnvy · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_vent-tired-of-peoples-bull?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:476b2246-6339-4fea-a88f-a56b8d6694d9Post:d96aa562-7a5f-4cdc-a07c-bed04ffc2770">Re: VENT Tired of people's bull</a>:
[QUOTE]Take a deep breath. Try not to take this personally. Some people (or in this case, a lot of people) are bad at sending in reply cards. Doesn't matter that you make it easy for them by putting the stamp on there or whatever - they just can't seem to manage it and they likely do this for every invitation they receive - not just yours. I would just tally up your numbers and call those people who haven't replied at all and then move on so you can focus on your fabulous wedding day!!
Posted by max&lucy[/QUOTE]

<div>This. So sorry to hear so many people are f#cking idiots, you shouldn't have to do this! We had a hard time wrangling the last 30 non-RSVPers on our list, too.</div>

MelisMC · May 2012

I'm so sorry you are going through this. RSVPs were by far the most stressful part of the whole planning process for me so I definitely know how you feel. I had a few people tell me that they figured if they didn't send the card back I would no they were not coming (even though there was a DECLINE option on my pre-addressed, pre-stamped cards!!!) My mom and I had to make several phone calls and e-mails to get answers, but in the end we were able to account for everyone. As PP said, some are just f*cking idiots and they have no idea how it affects you.

Becky&Chris · May 2012

It is really frustrating to not get RSVPs back.. you're so busy with everything else, why do people think you can keep track of verbal RSVPs? We definitely had a few of these too, but what you're describing is a little much. To have only received a quarter of your RSVPs would be driving me absolutely bonkers at this point. But I agree with PP, I wouldn't take it personally, I bet most of these people do this for every wedding they are invited to.