Friday Wedding?

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• MelissaC315 member

  

  January 2012

  I think if it's your dream venue and a good price than you should go for it. I would just make it as late as possible (like 6 or 7pm) so that people can get out of work and then get ready to attend your wedding. But as a guest I would have no problem with it. You might have some people who skip the ceremony but that can happen on a Saturday anyway.

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• TiffannieF member

  

  January 2012

  We had a Friday wedding at 6pm, worked out perfect. We had 98% acceptance and the 2% were our single guests who didn't bring a date so essentially everybody came! So I don't think it's a problem. I would def send STDs though just so people are warned also I would do an evening wedding. We had OOT guests that either stayed with family, stayed at a hotel, or drove home that night (our furthest guest was 7 hours away). So you might want to take a look at out OOT guest part and have that a consideration but if 80% are in town I wouldn't worry about it.

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• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_friday-wedding-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:48c6e15d-eef8-426b-bf22-b8a5d68fc375Post:6facdac8-db54-42b4-86b4-4110020f143c">Re: Friday Wedding?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm having a Friday wedding because our venue was already booked on every Saturday in the month we wanted to get married (June), and I think Sunday weddings are worse than Friday weddings. Honestly, the way I think about it, people will either come or they won't. <strong>The people you really want there- family, close friends- will most likely be the people to take off work and travel for your wedding. If it's important enough to them to come, they will regardless of when it is. 
  </strong>Posted by meg65[/QUOTE]
  
  No they won't.  Not because they don't want to be there, but wedding magic doesn't always allow someone to take time off of work and sometimes wedding magic doesn't put that extra $$ in the wallet to cover travel expenses.
  
  My stepdd just had to have a 5pm Friday wedding.  She is very close to my oldest DD.  DD was in 90 day probationary period of her new job and NO time off is given until your 91st day.  She couldn't attend the wedding.  Not because she didn't want to - she couldn't.  On tope of that I have 3 SIL's who are teachers and stepdd got married in May.  2 of the 3 of them are contractually not allowed any PTO during the month of May - they couldn't come either.
  
  Please don't fall into the "if they love you and they are special enough they will be there" garbage.   People have obligations, budgets, and lives to manage.  They can't always make that Friday wedding.
  
  OP - Have your wedding later in the day 6 or 6:30 would probably afford a lot more guests the opportunity.  My other stepdd also had a Friday wedding in May and she started her wedding at 6:30.  All of her teacher aunts were able to attend because they had time to get to the wedding venue.  Check with your must-haves to make sure everyone can make it.  Ask them to be brutally honest with you so you can make an informed decision.

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• aragx6 member

  

  January 2012

  I would first check with your VIPs -- parents, grandparents, anyone who you'd be devastated if they couldn't come. If they're all OK with it, then I say go for it. I'm not a huge fan of Friday weddings, but would attend one for a close friend of family member (assuming I was able to as kmmssg said) without a problem. They're getting pretty common amongst folks I know.

  

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• calliopeia2013 member

  

  January 2012

  Have been to Friday evening weddings and it was fine- they're definitely getting more common.  That said, as PPs have said, check with the people who are most important to you.  The Friday wedding I went to was in town, so it wasn't a problem.  I have a very hard time getting time off from work (new employees build up leave really slowly), and if I had to travel, don't know if I could have come.  I mean, the people you need to check with are the people who you'd check with to confirm a date no matter what- parents, grandparents, siblings, wedding party, etc - but if they can all do it, then my feeling is pretty much the same as it would be for any other date- people can either make it, or they can't.
  
  Also, PPs, make really good points, but note that teacher schedules likely won't matter in July.    And DEFINITELY send (email, call, whatever) STDs to all your guests.

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  January 2012

  Following up on kmmssg, one cousin will not be able to attend his own sister's (his only sibling's) wedding. The brother's wife is due the same week as the destination wedding. The date was set more than nine months in advance. You. just. never. know.

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_friday-wedding-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48c6e15d-eef8-426b-bf22-b8a5d68fc375Post:d2bc156f-6a12-4740-8274-1a5de61acc0d">Re: Friday Wedding?</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>I would first check with your VIPs -- parents, grandparents, anyone who you'd be devastated if they couldn't come. If they're all OK with it, then I say go for it.</strong> I'm not a huge fan of Friday weddings, but would attend one for a close friend of family member (assuming I was able to as kmmssg said) without a problem. They're getting pretty common amongst folks I know.
  Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This.  Take the time to talk to the most important guests to make sure they can make it before you book.</div><div>
  </div><div>Other than that, just be considerate with timing, and plan it late enough that local guests won't have to leave work early or fight traffic to get there.  Personally, I've been to 3 Friday weddings in the last two years.  I happen to live in an area that has nightmare traffic, and two were just out of town, so getting there on time for the 6:00 ceremony was a struggle for each.  Otherwise, they were fine.  </div>

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• amys325 member

  

  January 2012

  Check with your VIPs first and make sure it works with them.  If it does, then i say go for it.
  
  I enjoy Friday weddings.

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• whitney37354 member

  

  January 2012

  Have the ceremony at 7:00 p.m. to give people time to get ready for the event.  Otherwise, I've been to a Thursday & a Friday ceremony with no issues.

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• cadamus member

  

  January 2012

  I went to a wedding on Friday and the ceremony started at 6. I couldn't take off work so I felt like I was rushing to get ready to be there on time. And then we didn't end up eating dinner until 8:30-9. To me that is way to late to have dinner. We ended up dancing a few songs and then left bc by that time we were all tired and just wanted to go home. It is also harder for your out of town guest to get there in time. So take that in to perspective as well.

  

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• Aks3131 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_friday-wedding-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:48c6e15d-eef8-426b-bf22-b8a5d68fc375Post:6facdac8-db54-42b4-86b4-4110020f143c">Re: Friday Wedding?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm having a Friday wedding because our venue was already booked on every Saturday in the month we wanted to get married (June), and I think Sunday weddings are worse than Friday weddings. Honestly, the way I think about it, people will either come or they won't. The people you really want there- family, close friends- will most likely be the people to take off work and travel for your wedding. If it's important enough to them to come, they will regardless of when it is. 
  Posted by meg65[/QUOTE]
  
  I totally agree. My wedding is on a Friday because all the Saturdays were taken and I really don't like Sunday weddings. I sent out save the dates way ahead of time so people would know. All the important people took off before the invitations even went out.

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• bigmacmedic

  

  January 2012

  Pretty crazy but to save money, I went with a Thursday night wedding! The venue is sooo much cheaper and almost all my other vendors only charged half price because its not a busy day! Plus we are military so moving our date around if necessary is way easier! Just a thought. 

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• IllusionsDepths member

  

  January 2012

  My fiance and I are having a Friday wedding as well. We plan on having the ceremony at either 6:30 or 7 pm. We planned it so that we could spent quality time with our out of town friends and family the rest of hte weekend. Because of our age group (20-28) of our friends it is easier for them to plan. Most are either still in college or fresh out, so no real job commitments. 

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