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So I'm home for my shower this weekend which I'm hoping is a good time. As I was getting in last night both of my sisters and mom told me that they don't plan on giving us a wedding present at all. I'm not talking about a shower gift, but not even a wedding gift. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves I feel like that is really rude. On top of it, my one sister keeps talking about the expensive shoes she plans on buying for the wedding. Is there a nice way to say something about this?
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  • AurorasEnvyAurorasEnvy
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    edited March 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_vent-11?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:d41f2345-683c-4ee1-a587-b5fe7989b158Post:0e72dd74-5d87-4f67-abd3-ac489d6ba9e3">vent</a>:
    [QUOTE] <strong>Is there a nice way to say something about this?</strong>
    Posted by lindsayadams80[/QUOTE]

    <div>Unfortunately not.  Even if you tread lightly on this subject, it's going to turn you into the greedy bad guy (which I know you aren't).  I also think it's a bit weird that 1) they aren't buying you a wedding gift, 2) that they'd tell you about it this far ahead of time, and 3) money doesn't seem to be the issue.</div><div>
    </div><div>Maybe they are planning on giving you a really nice shower gift?  (IE, spent their total wedding + shower gift giving budget on just the shower gift?)  Either way, I'd be the bigger person and not make a big deal of out it, and just keep that in mind next time you feel bad about not buying them a Christmas or birthday gift.  Sorry to hear!</div>
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    No, I would not say anything about this. Guests are not required to buy you a gift for your wedding. But I do understand why you would be upset that your sister is not getting you a gift, but is planning to buy expensive shoes. We can't tell our  wedding guests how to spend their money.
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  • vineyard12vineyard12
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    I agree with pp's. I would not say anything to them. It was rude of them to tell you they aren't going to give you anything, but maybe you'll be surprised at the shower? I think it's annoying that your sister would say she's not getting you anything and then say she's spending a lot on a pair of shoes. I hope she gets alot of wear out of those shoes!
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  • LuckyHeatherLuckyHeather member
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    I can't believe they told you that!  How rude!!  Unfortunately there isn't anything you can say about it.

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